My ex and I still share a house and are still married.
Two young adult children, one fairly independent and away most of the time, the other still lives at home and can't imagine will be spreading wings for a few years
It's horrible for all of us still sharing a home and we are only doing so because it's cheaper (and its even harder now to move on with rent prices and mortgage rates). The (not) children can't bear living with him, we all just exist in our own rooms
I have finally got him to accept we need to take the financial hit, sell and split. Neither of us can afford to buy the other out or afford living here alone
I can't move on till we sell the house because of debt I need to clear, the monthly payments on this stop me affording anything
Ideally we need to spruce the house up a bit more to get best possible price for it (he is really untidy, cluttered and doesn't get anything done at any kind of pace, despite agreeing we need to)
We already agree we will just go 50/50 on the house sale and leave everything else alone, we have no wish to involve /solicitors courts in this
However, he is now suddenly adamant we have to divorce first in order to get financial order before selling. And this now takes at least 6 months, which depresses the hell out of me frankly
If we sell first, split as agreed and then divorce straight away, I honestly can't see the problem. I will be renting, he will likely be renting, to begin with anyway. In unlikely event of a financial order changing the 50/50 to 60/40 or whatever, then one can still make the claim on the other surely