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Daughters Partner summonsed

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Lapun · 15/06/2023 16:46

Is there a lawyer here? Daughters partner was served by police telling him to appear in court on June 30th. He reported this neighbour about their son constantly smoking Canabbis in the back garden which this partner felt was out of order. The police visited the neighbour as well as their landlord. The neighbour now has a solicitor and daughters partner is accused of harassment. They claim D partner has spread rumours about them in the small town and that my daughters security light comes on when they go into the garden at night ( it goes on if small animals come into the area)

Can he just offer to pay costs (currently £340) and apologise? Or must he appear in court? He is unemployed but my daughter still works. Can he get any legal aid? I have no idea what a small town solicitor would cost?

I posted by mistake in the divorce section so here asking for general legal advice.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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MrsTerryPratchett · 15/06/2023 22:37

This is another fine mess for mum to help clear up!

It isn't.

ShiteRider · 15/06/2023 22:44

I’m sorry, I think this fella is spinning all sorts of stories. I’d be very surprised is SW jobs with older people are sought after, there is a huge recruitment crisis in health and social care at the moment. There are also other areas he could work but his behaviour seems quite odd and I wonder if he’s unwell.

Dinopawus · 15/06/2023 22:59

Social care has a huge number of vacancies.

It may be hard to get a job working with vulnerable people with a criminal conviction though. Does he have any previous convictions?

Lapun · 15/06/2023 23:01

No he has never had a conviction. I think the area they live in is beautiful and plenty of people seeking jobs.

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Marsyas · 15/06/2023 23:05

There is a massive recruitment crisis in social care no matter where you are in the UK.

Gracewithoutend · 15/06/2023 23:14

He won't go to prison.

It's not your mess to clear up.

If he was a social worker, he well understands what's going on. Leave him to it.

SD1978 · 15/06/2023 23:28

So there have been 40 reports to the police, none of them resulting in actions against the smoker, with at least 20 occasions he's lost his shit and been shouting and carrying on. Unfortunately on paper that does sound like harassment.

ThreeFeetTall · 15/06/2023 23:37

Reporting someone for smoking cannabis is one thing (assuming that they are actually doing this), but shouting at people is a different thing. He will have been warned to stop and he has carried on shouting at them.

TomatoSandwiches · 15/06/2023 23:48

Sounds like this man lies for a living and your daughter makes poor choices.
It's not a mess for you to clean up, let them sort out their own problems, they are old enough.

IncompleteSenten · 16/06/2023 06:55

Yup.
That's harassment.
Doubt he'll be jailed but they'll certainly get the orders they're asking for and he'll face consequences.
If it's bothering him so much he should move!

SpringIntoChaos · 16/06/2023 07:20

Please do not give them money to 'clean this mess up'. He does not deserve your help (he's not even your relative!!) and your DD needs to step up here and ditch this ridiculous person from her life...and if she chooses not to, then it's HER mess to 'clean up'.

Leave them to it. And don't be bullied into handing over your cash. Just say no and stick to it!! You are NOT their 'go to' for every mess they get into...especially this sort of mess that is fully self-inflicted and unbelievably stupid!

What an absolute arse of a man!

Fattygettingthinner · 16/06/2023 08:22

Ok, 40 complaints is a bit of a drip feed. He seems unwell. Mentally. I mean who complains 40 times. And I bet he’s done more.

and not it’s not a mess for you to clean up. It’s his mess. Do not get involved op. Other than vague murmurs of support.

Lapun · 16/06/2023 11:51

I will now wait and see now. I want to
thsnk you all most sincerely for your advice. It has certainly made me think! I
will Advise you all of the outcome.

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