Caution for domestic violence, will exDP lose custody of his child?

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ExDP and I were together for 9 years. We have two DC and his has a DC from previous marriage. His DC came to live with us 18 months ago as their mother became very unwell mentally and did some dangerous things to herself before getting sectioned.

DP and I had a very difficult six months and I told him it was over. We had a row and he punched me in the leg. This was the first time it had happened. He was arrested and has been offered a caution but is terrified to accept it as he is scared that he will lose custody of his DC as the mother is now well again, despite only being allowed supervised visits. Mother lives 200 miles away.

Would a caution for DV potentially lose him residency?

Surely if he refuses a caution it goes to court?

Im confused! Why are you concerned about him seeing his child rather than seeing your joint children?

Admitting guilt and accepting responsibility at the earliest opportunity, i.e., accepting the caution, would almost certainly be looked upon more favourably than pleading not guilty in court, putting you through a trial, and being found guilty.

To add, please get some support and advice, being hit is not ok, for you or the children. And the fact he's shirking responsibility for it indicates a greater risk of it happening again.

Thanks all. We are separated and I will be the main carer for our joint DC. Social services have spoken to both of us and feel he isn’t a risk to DC and are actively encouraging contact. I don’t have parental responsibly for his child so they will live with him which could be contested.

He is concerned even a caution will mean he could lose residency.

I have had support from a DV support worker.

Would a caution for DV potentially lose him residency?

Punching his partner so hard that he got arrested might

Jesus, why are you worrying about him? He HIT you....

Getting a caution will not result in him losing custody automatically. Rejecting the caution and then being found guilty will be worse. The best option for him is to accept the caution.