Brief intro my ex husband was very abusive, we have a court date approaching to amend a child arrangements order, he’s not happy about it but has not seen or made effort to see his two children for over two years (14&16) but tells everyone he knows I stop contact and breach the order which is completely untrue. He wanted to resolve this outside of court without changing the existing order but I couldn’t as he’s incredibly manipulative, gaslights and is impossible to correspond with rationally which I tried the last two years to do before resorting to applying to court. I’ve since had to report him to the police for harassment via emails because he was becoming more and more abusive and impatient I wasn’t doing as I was told. I’ve applied for a non molestation order as he was historically violent and his emails were worrying me he would stop by my residence. Meanwhile he’s reported me to social services since I stopped contact with him, first saying I wasn’t encouraging a healthy relationship with him and the children (they closed straight away as they have no concerns) it’s worth mentioning he’s reported me a few times over the years for different things and never have social services had concerns. The other day I had a call from SS, another report for him, apparently he had spoken to a clinical psychologist who advised him my diagnosis of PTSD from my relationship with him is wrong and I have another mental health disorder which is effecting our children. SS said they were closing it straight away as they have no concerns, the children are doing very well but it’s still very upsetting. I know he’s doing it as im not speaking to him and resolving the issues away from the court, our court date is nearing, surely it’s not ethical for a psychologist to diagnose someone they have never met and without any evidence? I’ve only spoken to him via email for the last few years and I’ve honestly done nothing except keep them child related even though he often strays from doing so, I ignore anything he says that isn’t.