Child mediation

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Has anyone used child mediation to get kids feelings wishes? In your opinion was it worthwhile, what was good / bad etc about it?

Two DCs 10 and 8. Can’t agree is child contact so this was suggested to us.

Thx.

This sounds horribly selfish. Adults can't agree so drag kids into it and potentially make them feel guilty for any decisions they make. I suggest you both grow up and deal with it, so your poor kids don't suffer.

What is best for the DC, that is the important thing, not the wishes of either parent.

Sound a terrible idea their parents can’t be adults so u expect a child to make an adult decision.

A court would ascertain what DC think. The older one would have a valid opinion. A court would also ensure the DC’s best interests are paramount. Not parental wishes.

In mediation, the views of the DC could be listened to. It’s a good idea to do mediation but no children present. Parents state how they see the situation regarding child arrangements and why. It’s an attempt to find a solution that works for the children so look at practicalities, school and holiday arrangements, weekend arrangements and importantly, that DC can see friends and do planned activities. There should be a resident parent and all arrangements should be workable for the DC with minimum disruption.

This sounds horribly selfish. Adults can't agree so drag kids into it and potentially make them feel guilty for any decisions they make
That's not how mediation works at all. Yes OP, this a very opportunity for mediation. The mediator will speak to the child separately and only report to the parents what they are happy to be shared with them.

It will be for the benefit of the children, not the parents.