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Child centred mediation - what next

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SeriouslyStressed11 · 01/05/2023 19:16

My Dd 8 (young for her age) and Ds 11 have just attended child centres mediation regarding contact with their Dad. He wants more overnights with them as he has moved into his own home 9 nearly a year after we split. (Lived very local, with family prior to this)

My 8 year old has previously been asking to stay with me rather than visit her dad midweek as she doesn’t like the early morning journey. New house is 8 miles away.

During mediation DD actually said she wants to spend more time at her dads. Im not sure why she has said this as it’s so different to what she tells me or if she even understands what she has said.

My 11 year olD was very specific asking for the Sunday night. Would they split my children up for contact? or make my 8 year old go along with her brothers wishes?

im back in court beginning of June and no idea how to approach this. How much weight will her words carry and is there a way of me showing how harmful the school night stays are to her emotionally? Or even what she has been saying to me.

ive already said he can have a week at Easter, Xmas and summer holidays so he does get lots of time with them. Any advice to help me would be gratefully received.

OP posts:
Soontobe60 · 01/05/2023 19:36

Have you considered that she may not feel like she can tell you how she really feels for fear of upsetting you?

SeriouslyStressed11 · 01/05/2023 19:46

yes But I think it’s unlikely as she asks if she has to go or is she can stay with me instead. I have let her stay with me and she was very happy to.

OP posts:
raysan · 21/06/2023 10:02

Is there any update, OP? Sounds like an extra Sunday night wouldn't be too much for a (non ND) child to adapt to, even if she didn't understand what she was saying at mediation.

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