Protection order

[TheTigerInTheArk]

I was harassed for a number of years from a person. I am interested in applying to the court for a protection order.

I don't know if I have the energy for a hearing. She's very petty and tit for tat type of person. I think she would be glad of going to court to see if she could shame me in front of a judge. She would treat it as a challenge to point fingers and blame and turn it on me. Does that make sense? When all I want is peace and not be ridiculed nearly every month that goes by.

What sort of behaviour are we talking about?
Have you reported any of th÷ harassment to the police? Kept any kind of evidence as proof?

Do you mean civil court?
Have you got evidence of the harassment?

There is a lot of harassment from her. There is abusive language and something that I feel like is coercion control. She wants to maintain focus on old rows while issuing threats of contacting third parties. Not to repair the relationship but just to try and shame me and sabotage me. The rantings from her are intense and there's a lot in it. There is some abuse too and some bad mail in the post too.

I reported it to the police but they don't want to take it on board. I need to go down the civil route.

I have a lot of the evidence but unfortunately I lost some of the material along the way but I have a lot of it.

Many of these ramblings were not responded to. Unfortunately because it was long term, I did contact sometimes but not often. There's a lot of blame from her and a lot of expectations on me to fix this while she insults me and sabotages me. There was some abusive messages from her recently and I can't go on any more.

I would think you'd need a lot of evidence and a lot of money to prove something in a civil court that the police have already deemed not worth pursuing. Not impossible I guess, but difficult.

I guess you could try see if a solicitor could write them a cease and desist letter to see if that works, maybe the threat of court action alone might do the trick. And at the same time, you can get legal advice about taking it any further.

In the meantime I would suggest you stop interacting with them altogether, no matter the provocation

The evidence is there. I have thousands of messages that are of a bullying nature from her. There's thousands of deranged messages. The police didn't want to do the work of investigating this and they didn't view the person as threat to my physical safety so they passed it off as a civil matter. The evidence is there.
I have plenty to provide to a court.

I have a slight issue in that the abuse and harassment has been long term and I don't know if I can cope with rooting up old phones and charging them up and turning them on and viewing all those old messages again to provide.

I have a lot of newer stuff too.

The only advice I can give is what I've already given. Your first port of call is a solicitor to get some legal advice