Do the family court take threats seriously if you have proof

[McM89]

I want to fight for full custody of my child. His father's unstable he's on medication for depression and what not. I've got loads of threats off him telling me he's suicidal and going to kill himself along with threats to psycially hurt me, kick my door and messages telling me not to ask him to see the baby and one from when I was pregnant telling me to raise IT myself, will these messages go against him? . He has plead guilty to the abusive messages and the domestic assualt. There was rape aswell and his dna was found on me but i didnt take it further .I'm in Scotland

My ex had raped me, put loads of stuff on the Internet about me & my new partner, locked me in the house I owned & followed me round threatening me. He still eventually got unsupervised contact with ds. Cafcass in my opinion take the side of the man & ignore what the woman has gone through, short of murder the man gets contact.

Fight for custody?

Why what's happened? Is he requesting contact?

You need legal advice.

What are your contact arrangements currently?

There's no such thing as custody. There are child arrangement orders which can detail where a child lives and how often they see the other parent. If you feel the child's other parent is a threat to them you need to contact children's services and ask for their guidance. They should have been involved after the police incidents? With the court CAFCASS will be involved and will make recommendations. You can also submit the threats so that if there's contact it can be safe for you and the other kids. So it does depend, but be honest and engage with the services.

BrookeDavisQueen Your otherwise helpful information applies to England but OP lives in Scotland. CAFCASS, for example, does not apply to Scotland.

McM8,attached is a good explanation of child contact in Scotland by Glasgow Women’s Aid, including threats to the mother and threats to the child.

glasgowwomensaid.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/Court-Ordered-Child-Contact-booklet-.pdf

sending you a virtual hug. The system is not fit for purpose

Yeah a told him I would get him at a don't play area and allow him to take the baby in there while I waited outside but he's said the only offer he's accepting if I go in too. Also stated if can't have me he wants the child 🤷‍♀️

Soft play**

@BrookeDavisQueen Social works are involved. I am in Scotland so cafcass isn't available here

Is he asking for actual contact? Can you go ahead with the rape case now?

@Theunamedcat yeah I was going to let him take him into soft play alone while I waited outside with a friend and my cousin incase he tried to run off with the child, but the only offer he's accepting is if I go in too

@Theunamedcat no I didn't take it further wen I got told his dna was there. Wasn't like forced rape I blacked out so a didn't know what happened just went with what he himself told me about what happend tht night. I didn't drink enought alchol either to blackout so tht parts also confusing

I'm sorry this is happening to you. Is he on the birth certificate?

Maybe I've gotten confused, but is it correct you're offering contact but he's refusing because you won't be there? Unless he takes you to court for contact I don't see the problem? You already have full residency because he's refusing to see baby!

Even so, I can't see his behaviour reflecting well on him, especially if you have records of him refusing offered contact. He will likely get contact if he persues it, but the courts shouldn't force you to supervise yourself. If he's just trying to get at you he'll quickly lose interest when he realises you won't come with the baby.