Child arrangement order

[Sara182]

hi everyone.

I am currently going through a CAO where the child is living me most of the time. The father is having contact every weekend. Suddenly our child is asking to call me at 8am on Sunday. I do not mind but I do feel like I am being spied on by my ex. Currently he has phone calls but they are between 5-6pm weekdays. Is it unreasonable to ask that the phone calls for me are later?

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask that it be later, 8am on a Sunday is early, and later would be better as then your child could chat about maybe what the child has done that day etc, just keep it very child focused for why you think later would be better, what sort of things does your child chat to you about on the phone call? X

If your child is wanting to call that early it would suggest maybe they are just missing being with their mum? But normally our gut feelings are correct!

I’m going through a CAO at moment and it’s just a nightmare

Is your suspicion that your ex is putting your child up to it? To make sure you can never have a lie-in on a Sunday? How old is your child?

No, it’s not unreasonable, whatever you say, you will come across best if you can back it up with why it’s best for your kid.
personally, I fought very hard for my DS to be able to phone me when he wanted, because we had the opposite situation.
obviously it depends how old your child is and what else is going on in your relationship with your ex, but having had phone contact weaponised for many years I would be wary of agreeing to only have a call in the evening in case my child wanted to speak to me earlier in the day