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Crash1985 · 22/02/2023 15:28

I am new here and to this so not entirely sure how this works but I will tell our story.

We have had to flee from our home as my wife has been getting threats and constant harassment from our next door neighbours. They claim to have once been her friends but I sincerely believe they never were and they have controlled my wife to the point she is now a broken woman. My wife went onto a Facebook page to enquire about the price of a lodge for our anniversary and was immediately subjected to abuse. They started threatening violence then message me at work to tell me my wife had been having an affair for three years and even gave me a name. I got home to find my wife in a corner, shaking, terrified. The next day I left our home with my wife and children to stay somewhere safe. Since then my wife has been the subject of some nasty, vile and threatening messages. They have even started threatening my mother in law and we have had to have a red marker put on her property. We have logged every message and call received with police but do not want to press charges until we are safe as we have been told in great detail what they do to grasses. And it’s got myself and my family terrified at the thought. Last week police arrived at my mother in laws home, where we were removed from our safe place to speak to the police regarding an allegation of sexual misconduct regarding our 6 year old daughter. The report was made anonymously and with malice as police were quick to notice. Since being here we have been to local council to advise them on our situation and provided crime reference numbers. Our housing association have recognised that it is not safe at present for my wife in her mental state to go back to the property. Or my children. My wife has filled out all forms and has started to look to the future despite the constant messages. The messages by this point have been ones of apology and begging her to return home. These are narcissistic, controlling and dangerous people. They have threatened to come where we are and hurt my wife, they have made comments about my wife’s inability to carry a child (based on a stillbirth we suffered last year). Today apparently the police have stated that they feel it is safe for us to return to our property. We have a meeting with a housing officer Friday and I need to somehow make them understand that if my wife is forced to return with our children she WILL end up dead. It won’t be by their hands but I believe the controlling aspect of their personalities as well as the psychological abuse will take its toll on my wife. I am scared and I really need some advice or help.

Thank you for reading this all the way

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Hope551 · 24/02/2023 11:08

Is it council property? My friend had an issue with neighbour, not to this extent. They have rebanded her and she is bidding to move. Also with police involvement and evidence, if the neighbours are council tenants they can be evicted. Also due to anti social behaviour they can be stuck with an Asbo. Depending on your area it is either given by police or council. It will restrict them in the future and make them red flags to councils and police.

I wouldn't move back if you can get away with it, and wait to move from somewhere safe. I would get ring doorbell or cameras on door, it might deter them a bit. It sounds like hell :( I really hope you can start afresh elsewhere. X

JennyMule · 24/02/2023 20:15

Shelter has a really good helpline which I suggest you try. There is also lots of information on their website which I hope will help you

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