First hearing ex claimed he did not receive my C7 and was unaware of any abuse. I was instructed to make a witness statement as well as a scotts schedule. I’ve sent both over. DRA is in March. I have also proposed in my position statement for the DRA if he is to admit to the abuse, do a DV course I am happy for contact to start at a contact centre and we build it up gradually, I’m willing to pay 50% of the costs for the contact centre.
I stopped contact in September as police had safeguarding concerns. I originally went to report threats of revenge porn from which they picked up on coercive control and rape. Both NFA. A non molestation order granted in Jan too.From early December i was sending videos and pictures to ex’s mum (my child’s grandmother) and this was continually as Cafcass said to simply continue this at FHDRA which I was happy to do. His mother has suddenly blocked me? I don’t message her at all, just send the videos and pictures every 3-4 days. I sent a message to c’s grandfather saying I think I may be blocked, if this is also blocked I will respect that you don’t wish to see these updates and will not send them.
I have some concerns here though. A few weeks back I sent a message to c’s grandmother on c’s birthday “you are free to communicate with me regarding c’s wellbeing / anything you’d like to know I’m a text away” no response or to any pics etc too.
I’m worried now in court, he will say my mother had to block you as it was too much to see videos and pictures of the grandchild she doesn’t see. I’m also worried he’s made her block me so I have no choice but to communicate with him and the 3rd party of choice was her. What if he says I’m harassing them with pictures and videos now that I’ve sent via grandad?
I’m worried about looking stupid in court doing all when they’ve blanked me / stonewalled essentially.
Would someone be able to advise me on wether I should keep sending the pictures or just give up.
As a parent I’d be looking at those updates feeling happy my child is happy well fed & makes cards for me! An ex who despite all that abuse is willing to offer contact centre and build up and posts the cards out! I’d be using my mothers communication with my ex as a tool to ask the well-being of my child!