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Refuge and contact with father

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xx200xx · 07/02/2023 22:11

Hello everyone,
I recently wrote on this page to say that I have had to leave home with my 1 year old into a refuge due to domestic abuse.
So now it's got to go through to solicitors and stuff before my sons dad sees the baby, as I can't guarantee he will bring him back to me.

Does anyone know how long this could take before he can see him again? I'm not going to stop him seeing his dad as they do love each other and that side of the family. But I don't want to contact him again.

I spoke to a solicitor today and she's doing and emergency application. What are the chances of him getting 50/50 with it being a domestic abuse case? Could something be put in place soon for them to see each other? I'm not having any contact with his dad or grandad so I'm just slightly concerned what there doing on there part to try and get contact with him... my anxiety is so bad at the moment. I feel so awful doing this but it was for my own mental health and my baby being away from a very toxic situation. Can't help but blame myself :(

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xx200xx · 07/02/2023 22:44

Can I just add, I don't want him having 50/50 I want him to have set days and a court order to say he had to be brought back to me

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Toomuchwine89 · 11/02/2023 20:01

How are you doing?

I'm also in refuge and my ex has applied to court for access. Do you have any evidence or anything? Even without, I think 50/50 is unlikely, surely?!

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rootsandwings89 · 13/02/2023 22:18

Well done for being so brave OP. You did the right thing and got you and your baby out of there. Please don't blame yourself for anything. Speak to your solicitor, make her aware of your anxieties. Are there any support groups in your area you could speak to others who are going through/have been through the same thing ? They might be able to help?

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xx200xx · 14/02/2023 16:12

Toomuchwine89 · 11/02/2023 20:01

How are you doing?

I'm also in refuge and my ex has applied to court for access. Do you have any evidence or anything? Even without, I think 50/50 is unlikely, surely?!

Hope your okay? He's getting people to message me and also I picked my stuff up and half of it was wrecked with rubbish in the bags. I personally can't see him getting 50/50 now. Emergency court application is being done. I'm not sure if I have to go to court ??

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xx200xx · 14/02/2023 16:12

rootsandwings89 · 13/02/2023 22:18

Well done for being so brave OP. You did the right thing and got you and your baby out of there. Please don't blame yourself for anything. Speak to your solicitor, make her aware of your anxieties. Are there any support groups in your area you could speak to others who are going through/have been through the same thing ? They might be able to help?

I'm going to look for support groups. It just feels like nothing is getting better I went from feeling okay to rubbish again. There trying the best to contact me

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