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My child told school I hit him, they reported it to social services then he retracted what was said… social services want to speak to him!!

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Shoot4theMoon · 26/01/2023 10:58

My son told a teacher at school I slapped his face for no reason the night before! When asked about it by another teacher he retracted what he said but they had already called social services on me! They are trigger happy about calling SS about people in the school. Social called me and want to go in and speak with my child tomorrow. I’m so worried! What If he says again I hit him in the face? What will social do??

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PenanceAdair · 26/01/2023 13:55

If OP's child tends to do this (as some children do), OP is right to be concerned it would be repeated as you never know what they'll say. However if it isn't true, it should be easy enough (hopefully) to find out once SS has been round.

OP it can be nerve-wracking but you'll be fine as long as there are no issues (besides being a regular family with normal ups and downs).

worried4698643 · 26/01/2023 13:58

Schools need to be 'trigger happy' it help to protect children.

ImmigrantAlice · 26/01/2023 13:59

Is there any reason why you’ve not said whether you did it or not?

People are likely to give very différent advice for the two situations.

Mummyof287 · 26/01/2023 14:18

It would be completely out of order if the school HADN'T reported something like that!

If it is untrue, I think there needs to be some sort of age appropriate conversations with your DS to work out WHY he said it...was it a cry for attention, or an expression of hurt about something else.

Be honest and cooperative with the social services, and first and foremost, appreciate that the school are trying to protect children.

ImmigrantAlice · 26/01/2023 14:51

OP, you’ve been candid in the past about some severe issues going on at home that should already have had social services involved. Whether you’ve done this or not this could be the route to getting you and your family the support that you need.

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Shoot4theMoon · 26/01/2023 15:07

My son is 5, soon to be 6. He said I hit him then retracted it within an hour before I had even been told about it. No I didn’t hit him, the school said they are happy and believe I didn’t as there are no marks on his face and given he said it happened the night before not 3 weeks ago there would have been a mark left if I had of hit him in the face full force from temper.

@TrevorTheWeather omg that’s crazy!!

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Pal88 · 21/08/2023 15:13

Hi my 2.5 year old came back from the nursery today with a lot of sharp deep scratches on both his cheeks from another child. Please advise what action needs to be taken in this scenario.

REP22 · 21/08/2023 15:23

Pal88 · 21/08/2023 15:13

Hi my 2.5 year old came back from the nursery today with a lot of sharp deep scratches on both his cheeks from another child. Please advise what action needs to be taken in this scenario.

You might be better off starting your own thread - this is an old one from January. Sorry about what has happened - hope all will be well.

DragonFly98 · 21/08/2023 15:26

hiredandsqueak · 26/01/2023 12:19

It will be ok, reassure your child that they aren't in trouble and they should speak freely with the SW. FWIW school reported me to Social Care, maliciously because I had complained, the SW I spoke to couldn't have been kinder and saw through the school referral and closed it down straight away. Try not to worry.

They should be in trouble for making up a story that their parent hit them.

MrsMitford3 · 21/08/2023 15:27

A classmate of my DS (think they were in year 2) drew a harry potter scar on his forehead and told everyone his parents died in a car accident.

They were skiing and the grandparents looking after him 😂

mikado1 · 21/08/2023 15:32

AngelsWithSilverWings · 26/01/2023 12:52

I've been through this. It's heartbreaking. My now 14 year old daughter who is going through some mental health issues took exception to DH and I setting normal teenage boundaries and asking her to complete homework.

She decided she would be better off going back to her birth mother. When we told her that wouldn't be possible she told us she was making a list of "complaints" to give to social services because she wanted to go back to live with her foster carer. We adopted her age 11 months!

Three days after that threat I received a call from school stating that DD had made a list of allegations against me. None of them were true. The school admitted that they were not convinced by her stories but had no choice but to refer.

DD admitted to me and DH that she had lied but never admitted it to anyone else.

We spent 6 months being "supported " by a SW and had to have regular meetings with her and the school. SW seemed to realise straight away that there were no concerns about us as parents but that there were lots of concerns about DD's state of mind. We were signed off with promises of help for DD which never materialised.

DD was at the time and is still on a waiting list for psychiatric help and she is still extremely difficult. She still occasionally goes to the same teacher with completely made up stories about her birth mother ( who no one has seen or heard from since DD was born ) She seems to do it to deflect attention away from herself when she is sanctioned for a school rule break. She realises it gets her sympathy and an easy ride.

That's a very tough situation. I hope your DD has/has had professional support. Play therapy as a child or psychotherapy or other?

Sprogonthetyne · 21/08/2023 15:34

Pal88 · 21/08/2023 15:13

Hi my 2.5 year old came back from the nursery today with a lot of sharp deep scratches on both his cheeks from another child. Please advise what action needs to be taken in this scenario.

If it was caused by another child, social services won't be concerned, you should have got an injury slip from the nursery that details how the injury occurred, which you could show if other people raise concerns (eg. If the child attends multiple settings).

If your asking if you should complain to the nursery? It depends. Small kids can do things like that in the blink of an eye, so as a one off its unpleasant but not necessarily concerning. If your child is regularly getting hurt I'd want a meeting to know what was being put in place to prevent this, and possibly move my child if I thought they weren't be adequately supervised.

Elfandwellbeing · 26/08/2023 10:11

Assuming your dc made it up.. not an accusation but we are all ransoms on the internet after all.
You ought to thankful that if a dc says they have been hit by their parent that said child is afforded protection and investigation.

Cooperate with enquiries and you will get the best outcome.

Mazhaz · 26/12/2023 08:48

ApolloandDaphne · 26/01/2023 12:28

I used to work as a child protection SW. this type of referral was an almost daily occurrence. The school have no option but to report it but if it is untrue SS will get to the bottom of it fairly quickly. They will also want to explore why he said this in case there are things going on for him at home or at school. Children just don't think of the consequences of saying things like this but it's better to be safe rather than sorry as plenty of children are telling the truth and it's best to make sure they don't slip through the net. It might be a bit frustrating for you but you just need to let SS speak to him then find a way to talk through with him the consequences of telling untruths. However also make sure he knows that if something is happening he should tel lo someone. Don't make him afraid to speak out if he needs to.

Hello, can I pm you please? I have some questions. Many thanks

AnneValentine · 27/12/2023 21:15

Trigger happy? 😂

MNHQ

FlissMumsnet · 27/12/2023 21:24

This is a zombie thread so it's not being posted on regularly any longer.
Mazhaz, do feel free to start your own thread in Legal Matters.

Mummykww18 · 01/02/2026 00:57

My 4 year old daughter was getting out of her bed she slipped on a toy and scratched her nose she then being 4 went in said her cat scratched her we dont have a cat then her sister done it to then I apparently threw a knife at her bare in mind this is a very tiny scratch on her nose they rang social services given she had already told three stories and I wasnt informed this is at 9am at 1.45 pm I get a phone call stating that I cannot pick my kids up or see them or speak to them because of what my youngest has said they did talk to my eldest and she stated that she did slip and scratch her own nose as she witnessed it Iafter all that I had to go to the hospital to get it checked out bare in mind the school made out her face was pouring out with blood got to the hospital and the doctor verified it is a scratch and barely broke the first layer of skin if I apparently threw a knife it would be a whole lot worse I havent seen my kids since Thursday because the school believes keeping them away from me whilst they investigate is the right choice I am broken and social have told me dont expect your kids back anytime soon this is the first time social has been notified about anything which breaks procedure and I dont know what to do

prh47bridge · 01/02/2026 10:14

@Mummykww18 - You should start your own thread rather than add to one that is three years old. People may not notice the dates and respond to the OP rather than you. I suggest you start a new thread and set out clearly what has happened and where your children are now. A few sentences would help - your post is a single sentence which makes it hard to follow.

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