Unmarried, splitting up, doing mediation - full financial disclosure?

[ChocoBloc]

I am coming out of a long and controlling/coercive relationship. We have one son together and own a house (50-50, though I've paid all the mortgage).

Currently doing mediation on ex-partner's insistence. Have had individual sessions and now planning the joint sessions. The mediator has sent a financial disclosure pack to fill-in that goes into a lot of detail and seems more aimed at married couples (goes into pension valuations, 12 months of bank statements, value of any cars, possessions etc). Mediator also stating she will prepare an Open Financial Statement.

Does this seem right for an unmarried couple?

I want to reach a fair arrangement that puts my son first and foremost but given ex's past behaviour I'm a bit nervous about sharing bank statements that would reveal a lot of personal info (such as the fact I've been paying for counselling for myself).

You don't need to disclose anything about your financial situation. You are not married. Sell the house and split 50/50, he pays child support as per cms amount.

Do you think that if an unmarried couple split they have to split all assets the same as a married couple? Did ex tell you this?

There is nothing to mediate about financially at all. The house you own together will be split the equity half after your selling fees unless there is a deed of trust saying otherwise.

Child maintenance can be worked out using the CMS calculator. Don't be bullied by him.