Non Resident Parent - Providing Their Address

[talawalawoo]

Hi all,

My ex partner has recently moved address and so far hadn't provided me with where they have moved to. I only want to know as he sees our 2 year daughter on a regular basis and therefore would like to know where she is in case of issues etc. He has form not being awkward and difficult , does he legally have to provide this?

TIA

No, he doesn't have to give you his address.

Thanks for confirming.

The only thing is though, I'm am trying to set up mediation for us atm to agree a proper contact structure, he is currently refusing. I want to avoid going to court and would prefer mediation but how would I arrange any of this if they don't have an address to write to him? Would they just email instead?

Thanks

No just like you don’t have to give him yours

I had this, and wasn't really bothered as I knew my DC were getting to an age where they could tell me if they so wanted/I needed. Interestingly when it came to the census and you had to fill it in where you children spend their time, you could say they spent their time elsewhere but it was mandatory to tell the census where...I actually phoned the census people up and explained that there could be circumstances where one parent didn't know where the other lived.

Yes, mediators will contact him via email or phone if necessary.

Sounds like court might be your best bet if this is how they are behaving. You don't have to pay for a solicitor to attend if it's about arrangements and if ex is going to dick you about then getting a CAO can be a positive. I didn't want to go to court, ex did and now I'm glad we have the order (although not in any hurry to go back to court). Although to be fair, if your ex is a massive dick he will just ignore the order anyway...at least mine doesn't swing the lead too badly these days...bet he starts being an arse again now I've written that!

I have recently gone through similar with my ex. What I believe is that if it went to court, it would be frowned upon if he didn't share the location your child was while with him. But legally I don't think he HAS to do it.

Thanks all for your input, appreciate it

Depends why he isn't giving the address. Judge in my case gave ex an absolute bollocking for not providing it. He was just being awkward

The court can order the non-resident parent to provide an address but, in the absence of such an order, the NRP is free to withhold their address.

@prh47bridge I'm the RP.
The NRP was forced to provide me with the address.

@prh47bridge sorry ignore me! I thought you said the RP had to provide. NRP could withhold !

If your ex is already playing games, I fear you will have to swallow hard and go to court.

You will need a court ordered visitation/ custody agreement, and you should get 'rules of engagement' written into this.

They should include each party letting the other know any new address within a week of moving, any new phone and contact email address immediately, and address and contact details of any hotel or other holiday facility where the child may be staying with the other parent at the time the parent informs the other of holiday plans. There should be permission required to take the child abroad, with departure date and return date (permission not to be unreasonably withheld) and extraordinary events like family weddings, funerals, christenings, birthdays of grandparents need to be addressed too - no unreasonable refusal, right to take child to any such events assumed but parents need to inform each other. The other parent needs to get right of refusal for babysitting if the parent who has the child can't be there with her for more than an hour.

What applies to him will also apply to you, but when one parent is already being difficult it's best to assume all bases need to be covered, and nothing is left to chance. This will need mediation and a court order.

The good thing about a court order is that you can file a motion for contempt of court if he breaches the order.

Stick an airtag in the lining of the dc's coat.

Don't do this.

Thanks Math, some good points to consider.

Put a bag tracker on babys things. You only need to do it once.

My ex is going to try this soon as moving in with his new girlfriend and he is terrified i will tell her about the lies he has already told her.

However my kids have find my phone so i will find out that way. Not that i would ever want to go to their house.

Unless i was in an abusive relationship i would never with hold this information as whats the point?

My ex does this to "prove" to people I was the abuser because why would he withhold his address and keep a second phone just for me which he can switch off if HE was the abusive one he moves house a lot with his girlfriend and I've not even asked his address but he still tells people I track him and I want to know where he lives

The facts are this

He has been found to be emotionally manipulative and emotionally abusive towards our shared children
He was arrested and removed from the house for abusing his stepchild (my child)
The "tracking" he is referring too is me tracking our sons phone he loses it all the time and I need to ping it to find it
He neither has them overnight nor does he want to in fact he actively FIGHTS AGAINST having his own children
He does not take the children to his house so why should I care where he is living 🤔

Basically I would be concerned he is trying to paint you as something your not but thats because I have soo much experience in this happening to me he even claimed I got a job "near" where he lived despite the fact that I a, worked there BEFORE he moved and B, he told me he was living in a totally different area...