Not happy with how dh is treating kids- stress causes him to be short with them and shout lots. Has thrown a small toy at eldest-6( got counselling after) then 5 months later lost temper again and prodded at him whilst shouting. Vents generally by swearing around the house/ being moody etc and has spoken rudely to kids and I/ sworn at us.
Situation currently is addressing through counselling/ anger management again+ lifestyle changes. Showing signs of meaning it but we will see. If this doesn't work I want to finish it. In the meantime I have ensured they aren't alone together.
Really really worried about how custody would work as I'd hate him to have them for nights/ extended time especially but he gets cross after being around them less that an hour sometimes. He plays occasionally and works to provide ( as do I) but does literally nothing else for them. They are very clingy with me too.
I know that contact is often promoted unless severe abuse is present so I'm really worried about this.