My MIL has been seeing a new partner for a while now. He seems nice and so far my kids have only seen him when myself and DH have been present. We have no plans to leave them with MIL unaccompanied as we don’t live locally but it’s likely to happen at some point. Are there any checks that can be done beforehand? I know women can request this for new partners.
if this can be done, is it anonymous? MIL would be hugely offended if she knew. He seems pleasant enough and I’m not suspicious as such, but he is NC/ low contact with his own children (and by default his grandchildren), apparently due to an argument over inheritance but I just feel slightly uneasy.
Thank you.