I was wondering if anyone has had one put in place and how the process was?
I want to encourage contact between our son and my ex but I don't want this to be a way he can further harass and intimidate me.
Long story short my ex used religion to coercively control me over 3 years, cover my face everywhere I went and also jobs / finances and sex. My ex threatened to show my dad and uncle intimate videos of me if I spoke up against him.
The last contact we had was through my counsellors trying to talk things out so I don't talk about why we're divorced to the community. Which if you haven't guessed already, everyone knows everyone in the community we come from.
Nex was a decent dad but a terribly abusive husband. I can't give plenty of examples of this through events and texts etc. I can also show videos of him shouting at me threatening to call police on me all bevause I was trying to calm him down and him screaming at me that if I married someone else they'd have divorced me a long time ago. I have a witness to the threats of releasing videos. I am terrified of him doing this.
I have been in touch with the police but it's my IVDA who recommended a non mol.
If it's coercive control, emotional abuse and threats of revenge porn? Is this enough to be granted a non mol.
He is v clever and will deny everything even if the evidence is right there. I'm worried child contact will be an excuse for him to bully me if I don't do things his way.