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Do police even check if bail conditions are met

19 replies

JanuarBaby · 29/11/2022 21:00

Hi,

Me and my partner got into a domestic. My partner is on bail with the conditions of not contacting me, and staying separately.

CPS will take months to reach a decision. I want to reconcile with my partner, and start living together. Will this get my partner in trouble? Will the police find out?

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MolesOnPoles · 29/11/2022 21:02

What a stupid thing to consider.

Ilikewinter · 29/11/2022 21:05

Yes and yes. I hope next time you get domestic that you dont waste police time.

Felix125 · 30/11/2022 17:36

I take it its police bail as opposed to court bail?

You need to contact the police to formally retract your statement.

Bail conditions may be lifted at that point - however, it may be decided to go with an evidence led prosecution without your statement. If that is the case, the bail conditions will remain in place.

TellMeWhere · 30/11/2022 17:39

I hope you don't have any children?

TheSausageKingofChicago · 30/11/2022 17:40

Quite possibly, yes. You need to go back to court, or the police, whichever type of bail it is, and ask for the bail condition to be removed. They will consider your wishes and the level of risk they perceive and make a decision. If your partner breaches bail it is a separate offence and could get him locked up.

LIZS · 30/11/2022 17:43

Do you have dc? If so expect ss to get involved. If caught his bail could be revoked.

BowlofNothing · 30/11/2022 17:49

Utter waste of Police time! 😡

someonecookmydinnerplease · 30/11/2022 17:49

If you're considering getting back together you need to contact police and retract your statement. It takes hours and hours of police time to build the file and send to cps, and then more time for cps to review it. This is wasted time and money. What you choose to do is up to you, but please don't waste their time.

GLADragss · 30/11/2022 17:54

I’m so confused

so your ex has sweetened you up and convinced you to withdraw your allegation and said that they’ve “changed” ?

if they batter you again, no one will believe you if you drop the current case. they could even go on to kill you

the truth is the police don’t tend to get DV cases to prosecution that often, there must have been something substantial that happened for them to want to investigate

GLADragss · 30/11/2022 18:03

To add,

Ultimately this is your choice but it seems pointless to have called the police to begin with if this behaviour is something you tolerate and think is okay. I recommend you call the police and inform them of your intention to reconcile and wait for the police to tell you about the future of the investigation. Your partner can get advice from their solicitor. Police may not bother with the breach of bail conditions if the investigation is dropped and you resume the relationship.

at least your partner is focusing their potential violence on you and not other women/men

limoncelloo · 30/11/2022 18:04

Depending on the severity of what has happened and/or the history, the police may be pursuing this without a victim statement or support. So retracting her support may mean nothing in terms of the bail conditions...

This post rings a bell from a few days ago tbh.

And yes, the police DO check. I have personal experience of this.

As others said if you have children, be prepared for SS as well.

Victims of DA don't think clearly as appears to be the case here.

Whammyyammy · 07/12/2022 12:36

Please don't waste their time by calling the police next time you have a domestic. They are busy/under staffed and need to channrl resources for people that want their help.

I prey there is no children involved in this powder keg relationship

foreboding · 05/12/2023 20:18

I feel for you in this situation ... Me and my partner are currently in this situation.... It's one of the hardest things ever... Feels Like a death... But what I can say is, it's potentially months in jail before there is even a conviction if he contacts you. Not everything is as black and white as one or two of the comments. All I can advise is be careful. And feel your pain.

BrimfulOfMash · 05/12/2023 22:42

Are you already in touch with him?

Why do you want to reconcile?

Have you had counselling, done the Freedom Programme or any sought any support as to how to avoid abuse, build your self esteem or protect yourself?

sandletown · 06/12/2023 13:34

This was a year ago.

Namechangeforthisonly10 · 06/12/2023 22:10

Whammyyammy · 07/12/2022 12:36

Please don't waste their time by calling the police next time you have a domestic. They are busy/under staffed and need to channrl resources for people that want their help.

I prey there is no children involved in this powder keg relationship

Yes please don't contact police. So clearly assaulted you....presumably counting until you reach 37 events before you finally realise that violent men do not change

Trytobekind · 22/10/2024 02:14

Why are some of you so judgemental? Have you ever been in that predicament? I pray you never have or will be but be kind,have compassion and empathy instead of criticism and cruel words. Everything in the world is not black and white. Stay safe much love x

username35890 · 22/10/2024 02:19

Whammyyammy · 07/12/2022 12:36

Please don't waste their time by calling the police next time you have a domestic. They are busy/under staffed and need to channrl resources for people that want their help.

I prey there is no children involved in this powder keg relationship

Please don't say that to someone in an abusive relationship. It can take a few times for someone to leave and next time he could kill her.

username35890 · 22/10/2024 02:21

ZOMBIE THREAD

OP I hope you got out.💐

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