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Brother's possessions

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Notgettinganyeasier · 26/11/2022 05:31

Hi, I have been reading Mumsnet for years but this is my first time posting as I would really appreciate advice.
My DB passed away a year ago. He had no biological children and had been engaged for a few years. He was not living ( legally) at his fiance's address.
She led us to believe she was entitled to all his possessions. I'm only speaking about clothes, personal items, papers etc. No car or funds in the bank.There wasn't a will.
We lost another close family member the following week so our ( my other siblings) heads were.. well you can imagine. It was only while dealing with other family members funeral and will, that I became familiar with NOK and what happens if someone dies interstate. I was told by my other DB just to let things be and as we have been grieving I have done. But I have recently been informed that she has been and was, seeing other men before and very very soon after my DB died. I just feel so angry and I'm still mourning him. She has made out she's suffering because of his death. I didn't want her to have his belongings in the first place as she was never kind in her comments about him.
I guess what I'm asking is, is it too late to ask for his things back? His phone and paperwork etc?
I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense. Lack of sleep and I'm so upset wondering if he knew before he died
Thank you for reading.x

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Hoppinggreen · 26/11/2022 08:12

I think that legally all has possessions should have come to his family but it’s a year ago so you can ask but she might not still have them. If she says no or that she threw them away what can you do?
I am sorry for your losses

Colinthedaxi · 26/11/2022 11:12

My long term partner died without a will, the solicitor cheerfully (yip!) informed his mother I was entitled to nothing. I say this as gently as I can though, don’t go fighting for stuff that really doesn’t matter just because you don’t like his partner and because you’ve heard rumours. It won’t bring you peace.

Notgettinganyeasier · 26/11/2022 20:03

Thank you for your kind replies. I think I know deep down I wouldn't get his possessions back. Anniversary was a few days ago and just feeling upset for him.Annoyed at myself too for not speaking up sooner.
Colinthedaxi - I'm sorry for your loss xx

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