Social services

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Hi this long story my husband was arrested for child abuse on olders daughter but she has had it out for my husband from a young age cause he puts the rules down and sticks too them where she can walk all over cause I am soft touch so social service come and taken my other children without a court order and now they are placed in family arrangements I pay too see a family solicitor 2 months ago cause said u won't get legal aid anymore if it so I payed £250 to see the solicitor my child have been with family arrangement now for 16months. he has criminal law solicitor and he's been thorough her streatment and she my dad will never hurt me or aim me in anyway but he's been released under investigation which it's been 16months now which solicitor has said there is no evidence police asked her go to court has well and said no she also not happy with police contact anymore she not engageding with them no more she has split the family in two she is now 18 he has not seen her in 16months but can fight for other children too come home he see the other children contact Centre under full supervision contact centre has said in many reports their is no constion question is can we fight for our girls too come home with investigation hanging over is head

Are you in the UK?

Yes I am in South Wales cardiff

Is the oldest daughter your daughter?

Why would it be her fault that your husband abused her?

If your husband did abuse her and is therefore a threat to your other children, why would SS give them back to you if you're willing to have him back in the home?

Hi this is a long story. My husband was arrested for child abuse on our older daughter, but she has had it out for my husband from a young age cause he puts the rules down and sticks to them where she can walk all over me because I am a soft touch.

So social services come and taken my other children without a court order and now they are placed in family arrangements. I pay to see a family solicitor 2 months ago cause said u won't get legal aid anymore if it.

So I payed £250 to see the solicitor. My child have been with family arrangement now for 16months. He has criminal law solicitor and he's been through her statement and she said my dad will never hurt me or harm me in any way. But he's been released under investigation. It's been 16months now, the solicitor has said there is no evidence. The police asked her go to court as well and she said no. She is also not happy with police contact anymore and she is not engaging with them.

She has split the family in two. She is now 18 and he has not seen her in 16months but can fight for other children to come home. He sees the other children in a contact Centre under full supervision. The contact centre has said in many reports there is no concern. The question is can we fight for our girls to come home with an investigation hanging over his head?

OP I've reposted your message with some paragraphs as I think you may get better responses if it's slightly easier to read. I hope that's ok.

Essentially you don't believe your older daughter's report and think she has said these things because she didn't like his parenting style.

Social services think that her report might have been true, or at least they are not willing to say it isn't, before there is a decision on whether he is charged.

He's been released under investigation for 16 months and everyone is at an impasse, and in the meantime the daughter who made the report has already turned 18 and won't be coming back.

The short answer is that yes you can seek the return of the younger children but social services may still have concerns while the investigation is ongoing and a judge may take those concerns seriously. How old are they, and have they made any disclosures or reports while in family care? Do they want to return? How settled are they?

You can also try to press the police through his criminal law solicitor for a decision. Released under investigation for 16 months in a situation where the children are removed is appalling and I would expect the solicitor to be escalating this.

That's so sad that you don't believe your daughter. Regardless of the sexual abuse case it sounds like social services could have other concerns such as risk of emotional abuse where one parent is "a soft touch" and the other "puts the rules down and sticks to them".

Nothing in your post talks about whether your children are happy or thriving in their new placements, it's all about you and your need to have the children.

Can you take a step back and think about what is in their best interests? Perhaps your DH should have moved out 16 months ago, for example.

She also said 2 other people had abuse her before in pass which I went police station with her on two occasions one was her uncle and one was a school boy

Why would that mean she isn't telling the truth about her father? Many children are sexually abused by more than one person. What happened in the other cases?

It is also the case that many children who are being abused will make allegations against people other than their abuser, particularly if the real abuser is someone close to them.

Sadly, some children make unjustified allegations of abuse. That is why allegations should be approached with respectful uncertainty rather than automatically believing everything the complainant says.