Non-Mol

[Justus77]

I wonder if someone can help, in a nutshell:

married 25 years to abusive man. He has a caution for battery against me

we split after I suffered a MH breakdown and turned to alcohol

we are divorced, he has the children she to my - what he has portrayed as -alcoholism

refuses to discuss anything with me, court order in place that states contact and that he needs to keep me informed of updates in reference to children

he ignores all my requests for information, organises contact with members of my family/friends

I, foolishly fell into a trap whereby I sent him some emails that weren’t really necessary and he has successfully obtained a non mol.

the non mol states that I can only contact him via email about children however he does not respond. I fear that any further emails I send can be used as evidence of my pestering or harassing him. As an example I emailed him 2 weeks ago asking about school reports - no response.

the non mol is specific that I can’t contact him other than via email and that I can’t instruct others to do so- would this include a letter from a solicitor? I’m wondering if there would be any merit in writing to him through a solicitor advising that he is breaching the contact order by not keeping me informed?

for background I can’t afford to take him to court to enforce the order, financially or emotionally. Furthermore he can afford a good law firm to represent him which he has done all the way through.

A solicitors letter to him would not be classed as breaching the non mol

Can't you ask the school about school reports? You can ask school to send them to you as well as him if you have parental rights

As the mother, you have parental responsibility (NOT parental rights). The only way it can be removed is if your ex adopts your children. You would know if that had happened. As you have PR, the school is required to treat you equally with your children's father and send you the same information they send him.

Many thanks for taking the time to respond. The schools are good but only offer one appointment which I rarely know about, when it was online I was told (by the school) that there was only one access. They “forget” about me.

confessionstoday thanks for your succinct post, that’s all I really needed to ask rather than the essay.

PRh47 - is that written anywhere in law? I didn’t actually know there was a difference between rights/responsibility - Googling now. Thank you

PRh47 - thanks just found lots of information, quite clearly stated on the yougov website. Thank you all.

You need to ask the school to make sure you are a contact for your child and that they put your email address for their communication method, whatever that is. So that parents evenings , newsletter etc are sent to to also