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Clare's Law

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TheMoops · 07/10/2022 13:13

Can anyone advise me on what information is disclosed as part of a Clare's Law request?
TIA

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Morasssassafras · 07/10/2022 13:48

I believe it's 'evidence of an abusive past'.

My personal experience is, that whilst they did not disclose any actual information (for reasons), it was made clear to me that I should trust my gut and not continue with the relationship.

It was very helpful, and kept me going in the days when I was doubting myself.

TheMoops · 07/10/2022 14:03

Thank you.
Did they tell you if there had been multiple instances/convictions?

My worry is for a friend. She has recently started seeing a man who I know to be dangerous.

He has a conviction for domestic violence which resulted in a fairly lengthy prison sentence. She knows this but he's minimised it ( he was provoked, didn't do what is reported in the papers, her injuries were self inflicted.... yada, yada ) and she believes his version of events.

I've seen him be violent and aggressive towards men and women but because she hasn't witnessed this first hand she has chosen to believe his version of events.

She's done a Clare's Law request but my worry is it will just tell her he's a risk (which she already knows) and she will believe it's just down to the incident she knows about.

I find it hard to believe that there aren't other convictions or evidence but she won't believe it unless she's presented with the evidence.

Sorry for the lengthy reply but I'm really concerned.

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Pumpkinpatchlookinggood · 07/10/2022 14:05

If she has dc I would contact ss.

TheMoops · 07/10/2022 14:11

Pumpkinpatchlookinggood · 07/10/2022 14:05

If she has dc I would contact ss.

She doesn't (thankfully) although I am concerned about her getting pregnant.

I've made it clear that he is never to be around my child and that any invites to social events don't include him but I do worry about him isolating her.

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Morasssassafras · 07/10/2022 15:42

For me they didn't tell me any specific events. I had already left at that point though so it wouldn't have been right to give me that info.

The police officer was very clear with me though that my ex was a dangerous man, and that I should take whatever steps I felt necessary to keep myself safe. It really helped me.

I completely understand your concerns but I am also familiar with her mindset. All you can do is make sure she knows she can always she can come to you, whilst not making yourself a target for his anger.

TheMoops · 07/10/2022 15:52

Morasssassafras · 07/10/2022 15:42

For me they didn't tell me any specific events. I had already left at that point though so it wouldn't have been right to give me that info.

The police officer was very clear with me though that my ex was a dangerous man, and that I should take whatever steps I felt necessary to keep myself safe. It really helped me.

I completely understand your concerns but I am also familiar with her mindset. All you can do is make sure she knows she can always she can come to you, whilst not making yourself a target for his anger.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I know how difficult it can be.

It's a frustrating situation and we've just got to hope she comes to her senses before it's too late.

A close family of mine was killed by their partner and the similarities to that situation have been difficult for me to deal with. Im remaining as supportive as I can but she knows my feelings about him and I'm guessing he does too.

Thanks again

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