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ConcernedMummy01 · 25/09/2022 18:19

Hello everyone,

Just looking for some advice.

I will try and start from the beginning.

My son broke his arm whilst at a party (he was 2) it was a bad break and required surgery, it had healed at a bad angle so will require surgery when older.

His behaviour changed at nursery and he was occasionally hitting other children.

We had a visit from social services as my son said his daddy hit him so he hit him back. Nothing was followed up and they were happy that it was nothing after they interviewed him at nursery without us knowing and came out to see us at home.

I worked with the nursery and done every single thing they recommended and more so I went with him for soft start, I done online parenting classes etc.

He then stopped listening to my partner (his dad) and was hitting him and refusing to go to bed etc. This was due to my partner working from home due to covid / lockdown so all big changes.

He went back to nursery and during a story time about what makes people sad, he again said his dad hurts him. Again Social came out and nothing happened.

He also seen someone that assessed him and they said there is nothing wrong with his development and that he is great with instructions. He just needs structure.

He started p1 and had nothing but fantastic reports and no issues.

He has now started p2 and I received a call from social services to say he made a comment again and for my partner not to be left unsupervised with our son. I work from home so it was fine. 2 weeks later I had to take him to be interviewed on camera by a police officer and social worker. In the meantime my son was pushed from behind at school and had his arm broker in two places by the boy he kept thing his teacher was hurting him. School never bothered calling to see how he was / what they done about it / what they will do to prevent it or keep him safe.

We are awaiting for my partner to be interviewed the police.

I'm thinking I should get a copy or be able to view my sons school record/medical records, as any injury he has had has been from a party or from nursery / school ... like falling off shed roof or having a big wooden reel roll over him and bruising both sides of his head all whilst in the care of nursery, we didn't raise complaints etc. Just accepted it as what it is.
Where do I go to get this?

I work from home and my partner works away Mon to Fri so I know there is no abuse happening. Social said it seems to stem around his computer and when his dad turns it off for shouting etc he gets angry for a short period

We are in Scotland.

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Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 25/09/2022 18:24

How old is your son?
If he is shouting at the computer perhaps he is too young for it.
How did he fall off a shed roof?

Rushingfool · 25/09/2022 18:29

His arm was broken in two places at school? There should be an incident report at school.

Nursery should also have records of the incident that caused the bruising to his head.

Where did he fall off a shed roof?

ConcernedMummy01 · 25/09/2022 19:46

He fell off the shed roof at nursery, when I asked why he was on the shed roof (converted to a playhouse) apparently its part of risky play!

He is 6 years old.

Computer he gets as a treat on mainly a Friday and sometimes a Saturday if his friends are on.

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prh47bridge · 25/09/2022 20:40

You should be able to get his school records from the school and his nursery records from the nursery.

Chesure · 27/09/2022 20:30

I am not legally trained so I will leave that to those who are.

My DC get what we call screen rage. If they've been on one for a significant amount of time they are wild even when we give them notice, countdowns and end at a set point rather than in the middle of something. Still get screen rage.

Sounds draconian but we limit it to 30 minutes at a time. Some days it's multiples of 30 (say in the morning and in the afternoon on the weekends) but not longer in one stint because they get the rage. If the computer is a trigger point you might want to consider something similar.

AlternativelyWired · 27/09/2022 20:37

I feel like some pieces of this are missing. For your son to be giving video evidence it sounds like the concerns are significant and there has been significant SS involvement.

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