Car Accident Info

DaddysGirl36 · 2022-09-19T11:09:21+00:00

Hi all. I had an accident to which my insurers have said is my fault. I have no issue with that as I understand why but I'm really struggling to understand what happened, in particular the direction the other driver came from as I didn't see him until it was too late. I'm feeling lots of guilt & can't stop thinking about it. Can I get to hear the other driver's side of things? How is this best done? Will the insurers tell me if I ask? (We have the same insurance company). I imagine asking the other driver is a big no-no. The other option is witnesses but I don't have any (could find out if I ask around but I'm being cautious so it doesn't look like I'm trying to dispute things) Please be gentle with me. I've never had an accident before & feeling very upset about it all

Parky04 · 19/09/2022 12:27

You can ask your insurers if they have received the other parties version of events. Personally, I would just forget about it and move on. Accidents happen!

Raul57 · 19/09/2022 12:29

OP
Please move on as you have accepted it's your fault so why throw doubt into it and let it drag on for longer?

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DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 12:32

Thanks for reply

Believe me I want to but being a very anxious driver anyway & having my children in the car has made me feel like I don't want to get back on the road. I'm really struggling with the guilt of putting them in danger. Although I do understand that hearing the other side might make it worse

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DrFoxtrot · 19/09/2022 12:33

You've said you understand why they've said you're at fault, but do you really? It sounds like you've accepted it but aren't sure about the chain of events leading to the accident. What happened?

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DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 12:43

DrFoxtrot · 19/09/2022 12:33

You've said you understand why they've said you're at fault, but do you really? It sounds like you've accepted it but aren't sure about the chain of events leading to the accident. What happened?

Yes I do. I was pulling out into traffic. Road had a grey car in distance so I manoeuvred. It was a blue car that I collided with & was suddenly there with no reaction time

Other driver was on main road so I'm at fault in either scenario. But scenario 2 makes me feel less guilty & I can understand it more in terms of not seeing them

Scenario 1: Other driver was driving straight along the road, it was in fact the grey car I thought I saw & I misjudged the gap, they were going faster than I anticipated etc

Scenario 2: Other driver left a junction on the same side as me at the same time, they turned right straight into main road & I pulled out to turn left crossing the main road they were on

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WaveyHair · 19/09/2022 12:45

being a very anxious driver anyway

Get some additional lessons and see if you can improve your driving and gain more confidence. Maybe the Pass Plus by the AA.

DrFoxtrot · 19/09/2022 12:52

Do you not know which scenario actually happened? I'd ask the insurance company first and see what they say. I understand that feeling of wanting to get things straight in your head.

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DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 12:55

WaveyHair · 19/09/2022 12:45

being a very anxious driver anyway

Get some additional lessons and see if you can improve your driving and gain more confidence. Maybe the Pass Plus by the AA.

I did Pass Plus when I passed & I've had CBT around driving, use sat nav & plan my journeys carefully etc. I've always been a careful driver so this has shook me to the core as what happened is not like my usual driving behaviour so I feel I need to clarify for my own sanity. I know mistakes happen though & it's not impossible that I was just careless on this occasion

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DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 12:58

DrFoxtrot · 19/09/2022 12:52

Do you not know which scenario actually happened? I'd ask the insurance company first and see what they say. I understand that feeling of wanting to get things straight in your head.

I explained that I think it must have been scenario 2 as I didn't see a blue car. We went through it in detail with the use of Google maps. The outcome was that either way it would be my fault as the other car was already on the main road in their correct lane. I accepted this

I don't know if they will or can clarify this for me. Doubt they care that much with it being my fault either way

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HouseInChaos · 19/09/2022 13:12

Depending on the layout of the road is it possible that your vision of the blue car was mostly blocked by the roof support either side of the windscreen? I've had that before and scared myself by nearly moving out in front of a car.

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DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 13:19

HouseInChaos · 19/09/2022 13:12

Depending on the layout of the road is it possible that your vision of the blue car was mostly blocked by the roof support either side of the windscreen? I've had that before and scared myself by nearly moving out in front of a car.

I think anything is possible really. I just don't understand how I missed them

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Alucadekena · 19/09/2022 13:26

If you are feeling okay about it would it help if you drove back to the same place and then looked again at the junction situation? See if you can easily hide a car behind the A pillar which is the one separating your driver window and the windscreen?

My car has a wide A pillar and I constantly have to lean forward in my seat to make sure I am not missing anything at junctions and roundabouts.

I have been watching a lot of dash cam videos of near misses and crashes as Ds1 is learning to drive so it is helping him see what potential dangers there are. There are lots of cars that literally pull out of side roads straight into the side of other cars which it sounds like you did, or you pulled out in front of a car who then rear-ended you.

There is a thing called locking on where you sort of get tunnel vision, do you think you may have focused so much on the grey car you missed the blue one?

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DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 13:31

Alucadekena · 19/09/2022 13:26

If you are feeling okay about it would it help if you drove back to the same place and then looked again at the junction situation? See if you can easily hide a car behind the A pillar which is the one separating your driver window and the windscreen?

My car has a wide A pillar and I constantly have to lean forward in my seat to make sure I am not missing anything at junctions and roundabouts.

I have been watching a lot of dash cam videos of near misses and crashes as Ds1 is learning to drive so it is helping him see what potential dangers there are. There are lots of cars that literally pull out of side roads straight into the side of other cars which it sounds like you did, or you pulled out in front of a car who then rear-ended you.

There is a thing called locking on where you sort of get tunnel vision, do you think you may have focused so much on the grey car you missed the blue one?

I do plan to do this with my OH but waiting until kids not with us

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Survey99 · 19/09/2022 13:51

Sounds like they might have been in your blind spot (blocked by the windscreen pillar), I always move very slightly back and forth to make sure I have full view before pulling out.

If you are unaware of this blind spot it might be worth going out and sitting in the car and get someone to stand in the spot to see how easy it is to miss someone (especially motorbikes).

The other driver is highly unlikely to know why you didn't see them.

Raul57 · 19/09/2022 14:04

DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 12:32

Thanks for reply

Believe me I want to but being a very anxious driver anyway & having my children in the car has made me feel like I don't want to get back on the road. I'm really struggling with the guilt of putting them in danger. Although I do understand that hearing the other side might make it worse

I hear you. Years ago after someone hit the rear of our car, thankfully lightly and the car was quite new, I feared driving again but soon got over it.
Give it time

When you drive treat all driver/riders/pedestrians/animals etc as fools so that make you more alert. Always prepare for the unexpected but easier said than done.

Some accidents are caused by idiots/carelessness/etc but just as many may happen becuse the other car appeared in the narrow street and at one mpment it was not there then the next it was

I find b's that are parked and just pull out and shoot down very dangerous same as the misfits that fail to indicate appropately cause a lot of accidents and or delays. If we all

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DaddysGirl36 · 19/09/2022 14:21

Survey99 · 19/09/2022 13:51

Sounds like they might have been in your blind spot (blocked by the windscreen pillar), I always move very slightly back and forth to make sure I have full view before pulling out.

If you are unaware of this blind spot it might be worth going out and sitting in the car and get someone to stand in the spot to see how easy it is to miss someone (especially motorbikes).

The other driver is highly unlikely to know why you didn't see them.

I don't expect that, just to know where they came from - straight ahead or from another junction

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underneaththeash · 19/09/2022 20:55

OP - go and have an eye exam and ask them to check your visual field as well. It may be that you couldn’t actually see them?

Tdcp · 17/11/2022 16:30

I've just had an accident. The woman didn't see me and pulled out into the side of my car which has written it off. We were on good terms at the scene and when she text me her insurance details later that night she said she hoped I was ok etc. It was clear she felt bad about it. She admitted fault to my insurance company (they called her) and then to her own the next day. It's been very easy for me as she admitted fault straight away, even with no witnesses etc nothing has been dragged on and they seem to be sorting things out quite quickly.

Accidents happen, she didn't mean to hit me just like you didn't mean to hit the other person either. Don't stress about it too much, you've accepted fault so apart from that there isn't much else you can do, any issues give your insurance a call and ask their advice.

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User565394 · 09/05/2023 11:56

Sometimes your brain just doesn't register something.

Just this morning I was waiting to pull out of a junction and clocked a driver in a white car waiting to turn in. I was so busy thinking about whether she had space to turn in beside me or if she would let me out I almost didn't notice another small white car driving up the other way past the junction and almost pulled out in front of him.

I'm a good, confident driver, most people are. But accidents still happen. I realise that description makes me sound like a bit of a shit driver who doesn't register what's going on around them but I'm honestly not, it was just a random moment.

I wonder if you noticed the one car and fixed on it and its position on the road and how it might affect your decision, so just didn't notice the second one?

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