Just wanted to ask for some help with some advice on my children dad.
I have two beautiful children! My oldest is 7 year old and my youngest is 4 year old.
My oldest has more problems with handling it all then my youngest sadly.
When I was pregnant with my oldest daughter her biological Dad wasnt in the picture by being a dangerous man so I got away from him.
When i had my daughter later on, I met someone else but st first I wasnt so sure with how he would be and if he was a nice guy or not but as I was only seventeen at the time, at frist for about a year he seemed like a really nice guy and really cared for me and my daughter so I thought I'll give him a chance.
Anyways couple of years down the line he became worse and as I was a mum I got stronger by sticking up for me and my child. But sadly I wasnt strong enough to leave him.
But when it got to the point I was really really unwell from all of it, it was 4 years down the line where I wanted him to leave my home.
Over the 2 years he wouldn't leave so sadly I couldn't do a thing.
Anyways getting to the point as of you want to understand more to help with advice I can give you more of the story of what happened.
So with my oldest he is her stepfather and been since she was 1 years old.
She doesnt know her real dad as for him not wanting to know her and also he a dangerous man to where I even wouldn't want her to be around him
But with feeling this gullit for her that iv already said to her stepdad that he will always be her real dad as fir the things he has done for her in her life. But with just he is just lazy, smoke weed. never sticks to times or routines and even times he has missed my youngest child eye appointment for a serious eye problem as he didn't want to ruined his 50 year old mums day plan out ... and now my youngest is off the register so I have to rebook and get him on the list again so he can be seen and even doesnt pick up the phone as for when the kiddies want to talk to him.
I am the one who makes all the plans for him to see his children, give him money to spend on them, food, cloths. I even have to remind him to bath them, brush their teeth, brush their hair,
wash their cloths, do homework with them
But to be honest I shouldn't have to! Should I? As I feell like he should already know all that as him being a dad.
He has been a dad to my oldest and we share a child together as well with my youngest!
To be honest I didn't expect to have my little one as fir he told me he couldn't even have children and that he had problems in the past with his ex girlfriend.
I really dont know what to do as I feel like the best thing is to take him to court to get a sign arrangements so he doesn't disappoint the kiddies anymore or just stop him until he is really ready to be a dad and get his shit together!
I think I explained it all okay.
Its really hard for me too as I completely understand there r mums out there who feel the same as I do.
But sadly i do have dyslexia so I am sorry if u cant understand what Iv been trying to say but just really need some advice on what to do with my kiddies as just cant see them get hurt and keep having disappointment from their dad anymore. 😥
Thankyou so much for taking them time to read this and giving some advice I really am thankful and i hope i can help you out as well.