Safety

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Any thoughts would be appreciated. Ex controlling & ‘persuasive’ during marriage fast forward to CAO/shared residency. Family law just not equipped to deal with it. Current situation ex abroad and has just taken dc tandem paragliding with instructor assume nothing I can do. Dc looked unhappy but not distressed like had no other choice. Dc 13 and seems to be of a legitimate age to do activity - all local 3 providers (I looked online) stated 12 and above. As per usual goes right up to the wire of legality.. exdh knows seeing footage and finding out about this upsetting and prob dc will be upset by that fact as well. Believe I have no recourse, under either some kind of looking after children law or family law. Am I right? Also can do nothing in future to prevent similar )basejumping/parachuting/bungee etc?

Maybe your children wanted to do the activity ? If it wasn't " safe" it would be 18+ only. Seems like a difference in parenting styles in that you can be seen as overly anxious?

What's wrong with paragliding, I've never known a 13 year old do something they really don't want to anyway

Thanks for your thoughts x

What’s the issue? Your child’s father who I presume has same parental rights /responsibility as you, took their child on holiday and did a legitimate, safety regulated activity….. you just don’t agree with that activity.
im sure there are things you do that he doesn’t like
are you looking to change an order do you have the right to veto everything ? Not going to happen

Whait you actually hope to achieve here, or advice you are seeking ?

i always find it funny to read the messages which start with some combination of:

“Ex is a controlling narcissist abuser”

To front load people into taking a stance against someone who can’t speak for themselves, and then go on to outline how they would like to control what is happening for their children. It’s so patternable it could be a meme by this point!

Different parenting studies. If my ex saw the antics my toddler daughter and I get up to she would be calling childrens services, who would then ignore her as they know what she is like. Daughter loves all the physical dare devil stuff as do I.