Custody of children

[Kto4]

Hi,

This is not going to be pleasant to write but basically if something happened to me and I died or I could no longer care for my children where would they go? (I'm not planning on doing anything to harm myself by the way)

Basically I'm 30 years old with 4 children - 3 girls and a boy, my older two - 9 and 6 have their dad and my younger two - 3 and 7 months have a different dad.... I've never been married to either of them and I'm not really with the younger two's dad for personal reasons.

If something happened to me (god forbid) what right would my mum be able to have all four of them?

The thought of them being separated scares me as if anything happened they would never see each other again... the dads would also never cope with them on their own. I've got police reports with the younger two's dad on him also.

I obviously just want to reiterate that I don't plan on harming myself, my kids need me... but the worry of this situation does cross my mind..

Thanks and apologies for being morbid 😩

You can make a will and state that you wish for your mother to care for all 4 children (as long as she agrees to this) but if both dads are on the birth certificates it would be within their rights to assume care of their children.

You can state a preference and if you dont want a particular person to have them you can say so and why.
However, it wont trump what is legal such as PR

At any given point of a child’s life, either parent, closely related family members or social services can apply for a child arrangement order.

Family court will make a decision that they believe is in the best interest of a child at that given moment regardless of what’s written in someone’s will.