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Stalking Allegation

9 replies

RH93x · 20/07/2022 14:36

Hi Gang,

I met a girl on an online dating app around a month ago, after a while she didn't want to pursue a relationship, while i was a little hurt by this i was more so confused, upon ending it she blocked me so i decided (foolishly) to message her on instagram and ask her why she had blocked me again (She would block me, then unblock me, then block me, then unblock me)she messaged me back saying she would only be blocking me for a little while as she needed space, i did message her back on 2 different accounts to which she replied to these,
Around 2 weeks later i was arrested by the police for ''Stalking'' as i had messaged her on different social media accounts, however since being released under investigation she unblocked me to monitor my social media (i can only speculate) and i saw a blank message request from her, i have screenshotted this and have not responded to her at all, i am still currently unblocked by her, so i'm confused, if she has just messaged me again while im under investigation will the CPS take this case to court?i am very worried about all of this..

Her witness statement was also incredibly inconsistent and didnt reflect any conversation that we had at all when we did speak

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feathermucker · 20/07/2022 14:44

What was the content of the messages you sent? To be arrested on a charge of stalking is pretty serious. What has she told the police you did? Has she exaggerated or are you downplaying your actions.

Genuine questions.

nca · 20/07/2022 14:47

Just block and delete her.

Crumpleton · 20/07/2022 15:00

If you're under investigation surely no contact should be allowed so should work both ways. Block her and send her messages to the investigating officers.
Maybe she's a attention seeker.

orbitalcrisis · 20/07/2022 15:01

You need to screen shot ALL messages between the two of you, in their entirety, don't try to delete anything that looks bad. The police will want to see the t, if she alters or deleted anything it will help your case.

Do not get in touch with her, do not look her up. Anything she sends to you, again screenshot.

To hey are unlikely to take this to court, you will probably just get a warning. Do note t agree to any formal reprimand until you have spoken to your solicitor. If you don't have one and are arrested again, ask to speak to the duty solicitor. If they say it will take a long t if me, tell them that's fine, you'll wait.

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/07/2022 15:04

Am I right that you twice were blocked and messaged her on other platforms three times to get around that?

She definitely shouldn't be messaging you now. However, you need to learn what is acceptable and what you did wasn't.

Realitea · 21/07/2022 09:09

In my experience the CPS don’t take many things to court at all. I’ve had a stalker for over a year who has done much worse and CPS said no to perusing it. Once the stalker found out about this it got a lot worse. You will probably just get a warning at the most

IncompleteSenten · 21/07/2022 09:10

Why on earth do you not just block her on everything?

Blue4YOU · 21/07/2022 09:57

How did you see her witness statement?

RunningFromInsanity · 23/07/2022 14:08

3 messages on Instagram is not stalking. If you want help you need to be truthful about your actions.

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