This is complicated and long. Probably outing too. I'll try and keep it simple but she has been vague with exact amounts as she is understably heartbroken.
Mum moved boyfriend in in 2019. Her house was valued at approx 300k with a mortgage of 250k. Of this she has paid off 160k since she bought the house a long time ago.
Boyfriend has 2 children he has custody of. They also moved in as well as him. My younger brother and sister live at home, they are over 18 one is at uni, lives between uni and home.
To make additional space and bedrooms mums boyfriend started an extension. He is a tradie. It's now almost completed. With cosmetic work to be done painting etc and the bathroom to fit.
3 or 4 months ago mums boyfriend wanted to be put on the mortgage. She didn't tell anybody that she did this, as we would hsve tried to stop her. He paid 40k.
They have broken up and he has obviously now decided to move out. That he will sell the house and extract the profit from his share of the mortgage and recoup costs he spent on the extension (both him and my mum bought supplies for it. He did more labour).
My mum is such a push over. She tries to make everybody happy, tries to hide it even when she's so distraught. She will agree to anything to keep the peace. Her ex boyfriend is now telling her that he will sell the home even though she doesnt want to do that. I wanted to buy out his share and what he has paid in but he wants more than he put in, he won't specify how much. He wants to sell even though I could easily get a mortgage to buy him out.
He's lying to my mum saying things are fine he will finish the extension etc one minute, that he's leaving the next. He's changed the kids schools back to where he used go live and been looking at houses there to rent. He is stringing her along while he gets his ducks in a row. She knows he's leaving but is just trying to keep a quiet life.
She doesn't want to sell but she's so easily pushed around. He's already told her that he can force the sale. She has no savings now she spent it on building supplies for the extension.
I've no idea what to do for her. She's so kind and this is the second man to come in and destroy her life. I don't want her to lose her house. She can't even cry in peace as he's not left yet. She can't talk to me on the phone because he's listening. No idea what to do. Sorry for the rant. I'm very tired writing this. had a long day and I just feel so powerless. Like he's just walked in and taken everything away.