Child mediation

[nimm01]

I have been going through separation and divorce. and my other half prevented me seeing the children 9 and 14 years old from the past 2 years. She involved the older child in the dv case she reported to police for her selfish interests. police had seen no case in it and dropped. I am going through the nightmares with her and her family. she filed the same dv case in another jurisdiction outside the uk and held me in that jurisdiction until recently in the guise of sorting out things there. Now I am back in the UK and filed for divorce. I requested to reestablish child contacts via mediation and she now agreed.
I have a mediation meeting next week and I am not sure how to deal the situation, what to ask her etc.?
please help...

The first step is to put yourself in a child focused mind. Consider your current living and work situation.
-How can the children spend as much time with you as possible?
-Do you live in commutable distance to their school?
-Are you able to do school runs reliably on week days?

Be pragmatic. 50/50 might not be practical if your work or distance to the school don’t make it feasible.

Arrangements to discuss are:
-Term time: Weekdays and weekends(Friday to Monday)
-Half term
-Summer Holidays
-Special periods e.g Easter and Christmas

At the ages 9 and 14, the wishes of your children should be considered, with the view to reestablish and progress contact gradually. If possible reestablish contact during mediation through video calls.