Does my ex made himself look bad at court?

[MyFirstPatrik]

So basically we were fighting in court for child arrangement over a year now… after a year of compromising about the things, out of nowhere, he then suddenly started making accusations about me treating the child badly (with no proof at all) in fact so bad accusations, that the Judge said if they find out that he was lying, he is loosing his son. At the same point, he started demanding DNA test,as he has doubts about being the father (I guess he futher trying to make me look bad? Cuz there is no chance the child is not his…and he never doubted it before)

So yesterday…at the hearing…the judge asked him…if the DNA test comes back he is the father,what he wants to do? He says the child is in danger with me and my family and wants full custody. Then the judge asks..what if comes back that the child is not yours? He then says: I am dropping the case then!!! He is not interested…

What do you think?? I have seen the judge making note about it after he said this,do you think it is weird?

My guess is that the judge thinks he's an arse and is giving him just enough rope to hang himself with.

Yup. The judge has the measure of him.

Astute judge, a bit of king Solomon’s judgement here. If your ex really loved this child and cared about their safety, he’d be concerned regardless of the dna.

Spot on

He’s trying every trick in the book to avoid paying maintenance too

His child?

Lives with me, no maintenance paid

Not his child?

Lives with you, no maintenance paid.

The judge will have seen it all before and will not be impressed by his antics.

It's laughable really. Did you realise your ex was quite this stupid when you were together?

The really, unbelievably stupid thing about twats like this trying to get child to live with them to avoid maintenance - they obviously have zero idea of the actual costs involved in raising a child. It would cost them so much more to have the child living with them and them paying for everything that the resident parent pays. Unless the NRP is very wealthy then maintenance does not cover half of what a child actually costs.

He has already avoided paying maintenance as I have cancelled it out of frustration.... I just got enough of his accusations...so I decided to cancel the £7.03 weekly amount he was paying 😒
It's not worth the fight !
And yes... I should have seen the earlier signs of him being stupid...specially when he said we can have a child together if I agree that it will be 100% my responsibility 🙄
I was still silly enough to stay with him and have a child with him after that 🙈

Filing allegations is easy. Family court takes them seriously and investigates where appropriate.

However, as the proceedings progress, lies or inconsistent witness statements are laid bare to see. If the judge consider you to have been highly vexious, you could be ordered to pay the other party's costs.

Such described antics by your ex won't impress the court or cafcass.

Unlikely any costs with ever be paid unless something utterly mental happens. I had many cancelled final hearings the most sane one was "couldn't get a babysitter" I still had to pay all my legal fees. The reasons got more David Icke like from that point but still never got any costs.

I don't think false allegations are taken seriously by court to be honest. The stats just don't bare it out.

@Skeptadad
Correct. In child arrangement proceedings costs are rarely ordered. If anything, the objective of the objective or the court is for parties to reach an agreement as soon as possible. Even at a final hearing, they prefer that orders are made by consent rather than a judge making decisions on orders.

Furthermore ordering costs is a moot exercise for the court if the party is unable to pay or if ordering costs will further damage the relationship to the detriment of the child(ren).

I understand that but I had three aborted final hearings. One where she had to go for psychological evaluation as she pretended she couldn't understand what was happening so court was adjourned.

People that play the game/courts should be punished but they never are.

He has shown his true colours. Be patient op.