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Hi there so I am very new to all of this but I am at the end of my tether.Anyone who's been through something similar or can give any advice please contact me.

So back in 2008 I started dating my ex partner I had a 3 Yr old daughter at the time we became very close but he was living with his parents at the time and would end up staying at mine 3/4 nights a week I was renting a property and was working part-time. A bit further on down the line my partner inherited some land which he built a 2 bedroom dorma bungalow he moved in to that in January 2011 and asked me and my daughter to move in with him in the may so I gave up notice on my flat.

A few yrs down the line in 2014 myself and my partner decided we wanted to have children together and in my march 2016 I had my 2nd child. I was and always have worked and contributed to the home, after having our 2nd child my partners dad gave us some more land to build another,larger home on which we completed in 2018 and moved in to it the December of that year.

In 2019 we got engaged and was set to marry in May 2020 in February 2020 I was made redundant from my job and set up my own cleaning business which was going well until cv hit I had to stop working for a while but my partner could continue in his work, obviously our wedding got pursponed and we didn't rebook it

In October 2020 we found out I was expecting our our second child together I was worried through this pregnancy alot as I was nearly 41 and couldn't get any straight answers from tests or scans if my baby was OK I was stressed and worried throughout pregnancy and had previously suffered with pnd my partner wasn't supportive through my pregnancy even after lots of discussions with him about how I was feeling my son came along in the may 2021 things wasn't to bad for a while we had a split for 2 weeks in September 2021 but tried to work things out.

In January 2022 I made the hardest decision to call it a day with my partner as I was sooo unhappy I asked him to leave the family home as I know he had somewhere nice and safe to go where as I didn't. He has continued to badger me over message or in person about when me and the children are leaving his house but I have no money to my name as I had to take my son out of nursery and give up my job as my ex partner took our family car from me.

We are currently starting mediation but I received a letter from his dad's solicitor saying he wants me of the land by the 15th of June this Yr which is basically making me and our children homeless I cannot afford a solicitor as I am only receiving uc at the moment. Please if anyone can help or give advice I would be eternally grateful

You say you were given the land? Can you prove this? Who owns the land/property where you reside? You really need to see a solicitor. I’m always bemused when a grandparent wants to see grandchildren homeless. However you are not married so it’s whatever you can negotiate. I suspect they won’t be kind.

Unfortunately no prove of the land given. My ex partner is currently living back at his parents and I'm sure they would of done or put things in place since he's been there.All I can prove is the money that was transferred from partners dads account to my partners bank account to build the house.

From what you've said, you personally don't own the land, it was either given to or inherited by your partner.

It's unlikely you have any rights to remain on the land unless you can show you have a legal interest in it.

Whatever happens, I'd start looking at benefits - UC, Housing Benefit, Council Tax benefit - and get yourself on the council housing list while you look at private rentals as well.

If you don't have any documentation relating to the land then you don't own it. Either his dad still owns it and just let his son use it, or he signed it over to his son. But it sounds like his dad owns the land and didn't 'give' it to anyone, just allowed his son to use it, hence why the letter has come from his solicitor.

Where did the money to build the larger house come from? Is any of it yours? Are you on the deeds?

Is the property not on land registry? That should show who owns the land and house, and if not equally what share each has. Not being married has put you in a precarious position.

Sounds like legally, no one gave you anything.

If your name isn’t on it, it’s not yours. As you aren’t married.

He doesn’t have to let you remain living there. Could you negotiate for him to pay rent and a deposit upfront somewhere, if he won’t let you stay, so you can get yourself sorted. Maybe a years worth?

Your ex partner may have an interest in the property, but I suspect that would be contested by him and his father (given his father still owns the land and paid for the build).

You need to speak to a lawyer in real life to get a more detailed analysis.

It sounds like you have no right to stay there, I suggest you start looking into maintenance and benefits.

Thankyou for all comments