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Divorce application - what would you do?

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cato40 · 05/05/2022 14:38

Hi,
Hope you could advise and suggest what you would do in this case?
Applied for divorce in England in February 2022, given infidelity as a reason but didn't specify the gender of the OW. Husband signed papers as he wanted to move with her.
End of March I received a notification the application had to be amended to specify the gender of the person my husband cheated on with. At the same time I lost access to the online portal and my application has been moved to a local court so that now I'd have to do everything on paper and red pen!
Now my husband doesn't want to divorce anymore as he split up with the other woman and he would not sign the papers again if I update the application.
I now have been given these options and have to choose
A) continue application on paper, conscious it will take a lot longer and there may be additional costs in legal advice for other mistake I may make in furure, my husband would not sign the amended divorce application as he doesn't want to divorce any more.

  1. change grounds of my application to unreasonable behaviour so he can't stop me from divorcing him

  2. lose the court fees I've paid and start a new application with the new law.

  3. give up on the legal system, stay married and miserable and spend the money on more fun stuff?

I am worried that if the government portal for divorce have another issue with their website I may end up paying for a 3rd divorce application. Ot is so unfair I lose the court fee or have to continue my application on paper risking losing more money and time due to an IT I am not responsible for.

I am finding the divorce process as stressful as the dealing with the end of my relationship, now I get why many people stay married!

Many thanks

OP posts:
Threetulips · 06/05/2022 00:12

From what I know the reason for divorce is never shared so it doesn’t matter what’s on there.
You could wait the two years for a non fault divorce?

LittleOwl153 · 06/05/2022 08:55

I would continue with the divorce through whatever means you think it will go through. He as put you through all this, don't let him keep you dangling - time to move on with a clean break.

KangarooKenny · 06/05/2022 08:56

Go on line and start another one. He can’t go against it, you will be divorced.

KangarooKenny · 06/05/2022 08:58

And yes, if the whole divorce and separation process was easier more would do it !

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