I have a child in need meeting but need d help

[JusticeSystem]

Social services seem to think the stress to the children is acrimonious divorce and not abuse from one parent.

I’ve outlined my evidence but they don't seem to budge. How can this be?

Budge on what? Child in need is voluntary.....you just disengage if you don't want it.....unless you think the SW would escalate if you do this?

Well is your divorce acrimonious? Because even if one parent is abusive that is still a concern that needs addressing isn't it as its emotionally distressing for the children.
I think the best thing you can do is accept their concerns re acrimonious divorce, call out the other parents behaviour and ask for their advice on how they would tackle that. Work with them and take advice.

@kitcat15

Budge on what? Child in need is voluntary.....you just disengage if you don't want it.....unless you think the SW would escalate if you do this?

Budge on their view that the problems are both parents rather than one, because of long-standing abuse

@Mimosachimosa

Well is your divorce acrimonious? Because even if one parent is abusive that is still a concern that needs addressing isn't it as its emotionally distressing for the children. I think the best thing you can do is accept their concerns re acrimonious divorce, call out the other parents behaviour and ask for their advice on how they would tackle that. Work with them and take advice.

It is - but only because of enduring abuse

Yesterday MN wasn't working properly and i see it dumped my reply.

I think that's a good idea. I will have to list my concerns and ask them - but is the child in need meeting the right place for this?

It can be if they believe that they have evidence to the contrary.
CIN is not compulsory - you can choose to disengage from the process. Of course if they have sufficient concerns they could then escalate this to Child Protection.