Will he get contact?

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My DD is currently 2 and has no relationship with her dad. He was in and out of her life until around 13 mo the but never built a bond as he was too busy abusing me.

He was never convicted for the abuse (physical and mental) as although he was charged they never investigated and closed the case without my knowledge. He has now been convicted of harassment and stalking after he found my new address and has been calling and messaging me literally 1000s of times. He was given a suspended sentence and 10 year restraining order and breached this immediately after his release. He has also sent me letters from prison to my family's address.

Social services has been involved twice now due to the severity and the risk he poses and have suggested no contact.

He has many previous convictions for violent crimes and drug offences as well as an indefinite restraining order from the mother of his older son. He also uses drugs and has been diagnosed with paranoid personality disorder.

He has taken me to court for access which I assume will now be put on hold but I'm very worried about what will happen once he's released. I previously agreed to supervised contact at a contact centre (which he didn't bother with) but now I genuinely think it's best if she has no contact with him at all.

Does anyone have any experience of this or know what I can do?

I don't have any experience with this at all but with what you've explained I would be shocked if he was granted any access to your child at all!

I wouldn't even give him supervised visit.

A vile human being like that; what positive impact could he possibly have on your 2 yr old? Your child would be better without.

Also keep all the evidence stalking, messages etc for court.

You need to approach this very carefully and methodically. Can you please look up survivor diaries on YouTube? It's run by a family lawyer who talks you through every step of the court process. It helped me immensely. She's been through the process herself which makes her quite unique and she is very passionate about women's rights. Good luck op. Family courts are something you need to brace yourself for.

I would have thought supervised in a contact centre only where you do not need to see him and he cannot work out where you live.

Can you get legal aid due to the DV??

Does he have contact with his son??

I agree, he brings no value to your DD and is probably only interested in contact in order to continue to abuse you. 💐 and best wishes.

Whilst I was supposedly not abused (physical threats of violence and verbal abuse only) as a grandparent carer I went into family court not knowing the extent of his previous convictions. For some reason the police (a senior officer) told me there were no previous complaints against him and he believed I had only complained about him to bolster my chances in family court.

Turned out he had three convictions for violence already, many criminal damage when drinking and had been attacking others since school days. I am afraid he got contact, beginning in a contact centre. I was roundly ridiculed and chastised by the Circuit Judge.

Two years on and he begins attacking again. Firstly actual bodily harm for which he got off after the victim did not proceed (he had special needs) and he was stamped on. The second victim spent 2 weeks in ICU and he was found guilty of gbh but did not get jail time! Contact moved to supervised again but only for 12 months.

In court he said other offenders had their children living with them to which the Judge responded "not if I know..."

I think in your case because of social services involvement you stand a better chance of a no contact order. To me, it sounds like his application is an attempt to harass you and gain further contact to you rather than a genuine wish to see the child.

However, be aware the courts view it as the child's right to a relationship with both parents.

I am sorry if this is not what you want to hear and I do hope the court will do what is right for your child. I am sorry for your situation.