I have name changed just because I don’t want it linked to my other posts.
I’m divorced 3 children with ex husband 7, 9, 11
Marriage was difficult lots of abuse, very low level physical more that it would be ‘accidental’ he didn’t mean to hit me with things he was throwing about
Financial abuse massively
Emotional abuse massively
Spyware on my phone, computers
Ended up losing my job because it actually Dana he’s the breaks on my car and damaged my tyres enough times that I became unreliable for work
Would lock me in the house when he went to work so I couldn’t go anywhere
No access to money
No access to clothing on occasions etc
Broken up now, he doesn’t really have contact with the children
Probably sees them once a month.
All gone through social care who say he is no risk to the children and can have weekly contact he doesn’t want this.
I can’t prove it but I’m almost certain he was managing to get in my last house, things were being moved, broken and going missing (definitely not the children) things out of their reach. When I was out of the house.
Changed the locks it stopped.
He’s now started turning up at the house sporadically.
I’ve asked him several times not to.
One morning I opened my door and he was just there outside don’t know how long he had been there for
Another time I got home and he was sat on my doorstep
He has also started coming and hanging things on the door handle for the kids like gifts.
It feels so low level that I’m making a big deal of this but and after years and years of being being told I’m making thing up in my head I’m seriously doubting myself is this something I could get a non molestation order for it but as I have no evidence
Also could he just tell them I’m lying and appeal it.
I just hate being sat in my house with the thought that he could be sat on my doorstep right outside.
I just want to know what my options are.
Sorry this message is so long.