wills with 2nd famiies with large age gaps

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I wondered if there was a scenarion more vommon in the following circumstances in the case of wills
Dh and i havexa 21 year age gsp. He divorced previous wife lwaving a considetable sum (million) -no idea if relevant . His childten are 3p ftom yhat martiagexanf have each recieved fully psid gof private ecucation without loans including iniverdity, considerable conttibutions yo houses in the region of 750k each. Im trying not yo drip feed
Sind we martied me gave a 19year old whi gas jyst started university (we wont be able uo hive the same loan free situation ad the others received and aldo have a four year old daughter.
If my husbandd were to die first does anyone gave any clue how how thing wpulf be split?my husband suggesyed i would have s year yo move eith my children and share the proceeds of the house witb his children which seems poyentially unfsir whrn minre and my children's life is just devastated. A solicitor friend suggsyed in her similar case her step child gets a payment and she retains the rest. I dont know whats notmal. Tts worth noting one of my childten absolutley loathes my mere existence do any type of dialogue will be imposdible.
Not sll solivitors are as good as othets do thoughts are welcomed

Pretty difficult to interpret what you've typed tbh.

What does it say in his will? Without a will it would all automatically pass to you as his wife. Has he left you a lifetime interest in his estate, named you on any insurance policies or just decided to leave some/all directly to some/all of his children? As his financial dependent you may be able to challenge a will that disinherited you but better to speak to him now snd understand his thinking.

Please write clearly .

It's clear enough. The children of the first marriage have benefited by private school education, no student loans and house deposits. The 19 yr of won't get that help and they have a 4 year old. Sounds like if OPs th dies first he wants the house sold and split between both of his families. OK feels that's unfair.

In my view, the 4 year old is the priority as they are not yet independent. Definitely you need to make sure you and they are housed and provided for in a similar manner to which they're living now. This could be done through life insurance if your husband wants to leave inheritance to all his children. Do you work, financially contribute to the house?

Can he not work out what a private education and university fees will cost for the four year old and set that aside and divide the rest of his capital between all of his children?

You and the four year old would need to stay in the house until she's 18 then sell it and you get half and the other half can be divided between all of the children.