No contact order….

[Worriedmomma]

Hi I need some legal advice regarding a no contact order I signed in 2017 (roughly June time)… so back then I was a teaching assistant (I’ve since qualified and I’m now a full time teacher at the same school) so back in 2017 my cousins Husband was being investigated by the police regarding a sex offence (briefly he was texting an under age child or so he thought it turned out to be an undercover police sting) anyway my cousin decided to stand by him through this, and after she mentioned to one of the officers I was a teaching assistant they decided to contact safeguarding and report it to my place of work, it was rather embarrassing for me being called into the headmistresses office regarding this, but I’m not sure if the conversation was lost in translation via the police or safeguarding but it ended up that my boss (the headmistress) was under the impression that my cousins husband was abusing me they offered me counselling support etc, but I explained the actual situation and she apologised for the misunderstanding but nonetheless asked me to sign a “no contact order” obviously I did this as I’d worked hard to get where I was… my cousin totality understood my position that I was happy to be there for her moral support but could no longer have any contact with her husband… moving on his case went to court and he was advised to plead guilty at obviously since it was a police sting they had full transcripts of the messages etc and as it as classed as “no harm done” case as no actual underage girl was involved his legal team advised worse case senario was a suspended sentence and possibly a sex offender scheme, as he previously had no prosecution against him not even so much as a parking ticket, his character references were positive and he regretted what he’s done massively… this was not the case when it went to court he was sentenced to 9 months and placed on the sex offender register for 15 years, his legal team did appeal his sentencing but it turned out that by the time it would have got back into court he’d pretty much have done his time anyway…. Right jumping forward to now they are still very much together (no children) he is considered as extremely low risk of reoffending, he did his probation passed it all, and has since retired to work (he’s a plasterer) his public protection officer only visits once per year to check up on him (usually after he’s made his yearly signing) his last contact with them was May 2021…. There was an incident (for want of a better word) regarding their best friends who have children (boy 12, girl 7 boy 4) he was doing some work at their house and he mentioned it to his ppo on her visit and she said as there were children ( mainly the female) and they were close friends she would have to inform social services, which she did immediately and an investigation was done including interviews with schools, parents and the 2 eldest children, it all ended well and social services reported back to ppo that they found no issues and as long as he wasn’t left alone or didn’t stay over night anywhere in the same property as the children no further investigation was necessary and the case was closed…. So now here’s my issue.. my other cousin (her sister) is getting married in November, the guy in question is best man so will obviously be there at the wedding.. can I go? I obviously signed the no contact order forbidding me any contact but does it still stand? ( how long do they last?) I would hate to not be there on their wedding day but my career is very important to me and has to be my priority here… I just need some help before I upset my cousin (who has also asked me to be a bridesmaid for her)…. So sorry for the long winded message but I wanted to cover everything I know.
Many thanks any help would be appreciated xx

[prh47bridge]

From the description, this is not a court order. It is something your employer has drawn up for you to sign. You need to ask them about this situation.

[GinPalace2]

Talk to your Headmistress explain the circumstances and ask permission. It would be a really hard hearted person to ban you from going to a family wedding.

[Worriedmomma]

Thank you for your responses I think my only option is like you say bring it up at work (I've been avoiding this as it's never been mentioned since and I wasn't really wanting to rehash the whole shitty situation) but I don't feel I have any option, and no it definitely wasn't a court order of any kind it was merely after a conversation with safeguarding I was asked to sign the documents preventing me from contact. There was no mention of how long it would last and I've never been asked the outcome of his court appearance either... thank you xx

[Leslo]

Hi I wonder if anyone can help, I have a court order that states my ex and his family are to have no contact with my child direct or indirect, I just need to no if my ex is still entitled to contact my child school for information?? Does anyone no ?