@serene12
This must be very scary and overwhelming for you. In Scotland, where there is a child in the household, The Police will automatically make a referral to social services, who will carry out an assessment. Normally social services will refer to the Children’s Reporter, who will decide if the case will proceed to a Children’s Hearing. This is due to there being a child who has or has likely to commit domestic abuse, as this raises safeguarding concerns. The assesssment will look at the mother’s strengths i.e. what has she done to protect her child, if she’s engaged with services and perpetrator accountability.
This....
What's your priority @Monotemom?
Christmas dinner with your MIL and partner or doing the best for your child?
Whatever your interpretation of the argument it was considered serious enough by the police for those bail conditions to be set.
Don't try and overturn them.
You and your partner best serve the interests of your child and yourselves if you want to remain in the relationship, by demonstrating you're willingness to listen to and abide by the sanctions imposed.
Let social services do their assessment and listen to what they tell you.
Do not try and get away with visiting your partner or overturning the bail conditions.
You would simply be escalating the situation by demonstrating you are unwilling to look after the welfare of your child and yourself by minimising what happened.