Family Court again and again

[SiempreDot]

I am being taken to the family court again, four months after I received a barring order. This is the 5 time I've been taken to court in 13 months and 9th time in two years. This time because I asked if my son's father book his holiday in summer 2022 five days after he planned to as we will be away seeing family who live abroad and we've not seen due to COVID. He hadn't even booked flights yet. I received a barring order only months ago and it seems its not even worth the paper it's written on. Am now faced with the whole rigmarole of CAFCASS interviews and family court hearings because one man can't stand a woman having opinions about her own child. Has anyone been through repeated family court and been able to make CAFCASS understand? In my experience, they've always been so appalling. When my ex would stalk me and sit in his car outside my house at night revving his engine, their report said he was just trying to make contact with me. The whole thing drives me up the wall with how misogynist the family court system is.

A barring order is not a complete ban on him taking action against you. It means he has to get the court's permission first. Unless there has already been a hearing at which he was granted permission, that hasn't happened yet. So, the first hearing will be to decide whether or not to give him permission. He will have to convince the court that there has been a change of circumstances in the last 4 months that would justify giving him permission. He will also have to convince the court that he has an arguable case with a real prospect of success. You will clearly argue that he should not be given permission. CAFCASS will not be involved unless the court decides to allow him to bring this case.

Sorry I am being thick but he is taking you to court because you asked him to commit to dates for hint Laing your chicks on holiday and therefore avoid travel clashes?

If that is the case i’d be amazed with a barring order in place that he’d get leave of court to apply. You are not being in the least obstructive or threatening / compromising his relationship with your child.
He is using court as a means to intimidate and upset you. Nothing more.

The fact he’s doing this so soon after being issued a barring order shows exactly why one is needed frankly

• him taking your child on holiday that should read

Get a Solicitor who will settle all the issues once and for all on how the terms of contact should be.

@lilyville

Get a Solicitor who will settle all the issues once and for all on how the terms of contact should be.

It is not possible to settle the issues "once and for all". The OP's partner is always able to take the matter back to court. The closest it is possible to get is a barring order, which she has. This means her partner needs the court's permission to take her back to court.

I hear you OP! I’m in a similar situation (but no barring order) and clueless how to make it stop…

Hey, waiting to hear if we will get a barring order and curious, What happened in the end? Hope it was ok and sending some solidarity for what it’s worth