Custody of one year old

[lilu38]

Hi everyone,

Looking for some advice on what is deemed reasonable custody for my ex over our one year old daughter! I will be going back to work full time in November and she will be in nursery! Since we have split up he has been able to see her whenever he wants (whether he chooses to see her is a different matter). She has never spent a night without me and I have always been her main caregiver, even when we were living together. I was thinking one night a week, after she has settled into nursery, and one day during the weekend (I don't know whether every weekend or every other weekend). And then he is welcome to come over during the weeknight evenings to give her dinner/bath her whenever he likes! Is this reasonable? I want a plan/routine set it stone and something that will give my little girl stability, whilst she is still able to maintain a relationship with her father. This is all
Very recent and I haven't had time to seek any legal advice! He keeps threatening me that he knows his legal rights and it is starting to make me anxious

You are doing everything right.

My ex left when our daughter was 1 and I applied for shared care. I have spent the past 2 years doing everything to ensure this happened and learning all I can about the process.

From what I have seen mums don't tend to lose residency for shared care unless the following criteria are met:

1. False allegations and contact denial
2. Up against a good and present dad

Ultimately I have ended up with shared care but suspect I would have struggled against a position as reasonable as yours. But then two parents being reasonable could work together for the best interests of a child so likely wouldn't be in court.

He doesn't know his legal rights because if he did he would know he doesn't have any. Only the child has rights in these situations.