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anonymousname2021 · 15/09/2021 15:57

My eldest has had a difficult year and struggles with depression, anxiety etc, being assessed for ADHD and autism through CAMHS. Yesterday they met with a new team member and when they were asked about family relationships told them 'my dad's lovely but can be physically aggressive when he loses his temper'.

They then went on to describe an incident which happened in May. My eldest was being very challenging all morning and when my DH drove them to school they were screaming that he was a f**king pussy in his face in the car, and eventually he lost the plot and hit them on their arm.

This was obviously completely unacceptable and he picked them up early from school to apologise and discuss what happened. It seemed to resolve it. He has never hit them before or since and is mortified that it happened.

However, since my eldest described this to CAMHS the team there have reported it as a concern and we are now going to be investigated by police and social work.

Does anyone have any advice or experience of this? I feel like I'm drowning.

OP posts:
2lsinllama · 15/09/2021 17:46

I only have experience from the professional side, but let me reassure you that all these agencies are there to help, not to judge. They will want to talk to all concerned to find out if this is a regular thing or a one off. I’m guessing that the agencies involved are familiar with your eldest and their behaviour? They will suggest lots of ways that this type of situation could have been dealt with (which I’m sure you know and use 99times out of 100)
Reports will be written and it will all be kept on file - but that’s it. A one off slap won’t be taken any further, it’s only investigated to see if there are underlying issues.

RedHelenB · 15/09/2021 18:30

Did your son recount it as you've described it because it seems odd for the police and SS to be involved ?

Ozanj · 15/09/2021 18:37

Well your son was right. So maybe this will trigger some support for you.

Kylereese · 28/09/2021 22:00

How old is DC?

CreepingDeath · 01/10/2021 20:56

Why are pp assuming the child is a boy?

I'm sorry you are so stressed OP, but as 2lsinllama said, they will not go in guns blazing with something like this. These agencies are well used to family discord, and there is a gulf of difference between a slap on the arm and actual ongoing abuse.

Try and get support from yourself in all of this.

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