Don't Know If I Am Liable.

[Mrsorganmorgan]

Husband had a stroke 5 years ago. On the same day I found out he had been having an affair for some time.
He has post stroke epilepsy and cannot speak at all.

Yesterday, he tried to buy a car. He became very abusive when I tried to stop him and sulked all day. I am really struggling to cope at the moment. Today I gave in and gave him his credit card, because I have reached the stage where I can't cope anymore.What is bothering me is if he had an accident or, God forbid, hurt or killed someone, am I in any way liable because I gave him his credit card.

I have Lasting Power of Attorney for Health and Finance.

I know you can't read his mind, OP, but how do you think he would attempt to buy a car if his speech and writing is so severely limited? How would he go about it?

I have just looked at the Mental Capacity Act 2005 and they are very iffy.

OP do you own a property together? I think you need to see an actual solicitor as a friend of mine in this position was told that in a settlement her husband would be entitled to the house as he needed it, and she might end up having to pay him maintenance if she worked. He was allowed to stay in the house, had carers coming in which she ended up paying towards and she got nothing. Finally he went into hospital and is not expected to return but its still a complete mess. He couldn't sign anything either. Please see a solicitor.

Divorce proceedings like to see both parties adequately housed. A one or two bedroom house or ground floor flat could achieve that, depending on whether his car assessment says he needs a live-in carer or not (rare).

DishingOutDone Yes, we do own a property together, which is paid for. I have a really good solicitor and I am retired. It's a minefield! I saw a counsillor when this first happened and she told me to treat it like a job. Don't know if she was right!

Sometimes, I go out into the garden and do "silent screaming". How the hell did I end up in this situation?

He needs a mental capacity assessment

well at least you have a plan of action OP, ring social services monday.
write down everything you think of.
things to do, things to check, find out, people to contact.
this is your work now. plan it as you would a work project.
bring to it all your clear-thinking, and calm logic.
let us know how you get on.
all the best.

alexdgr8

Thank you . I will phone them on Monday.

Today is Monday, OP.

You might as well get the ball rolling. You've wasted enough of your life looking after an abusive cheater.