Enforcing a court order- what am I doing wrong?

[roomfulloflove]

This is going to make me look so stupid but I am now at my wits end, and need to get focus on how I proceed.

It took me 4 years to finalise my divorce and about £20k.

The court order mandated an equity split from the sale of fmh. However over 3 years on ex has blocked everything so house is not on the market and I've received no money from it.

I've been working with lawyers for 2 years to get the order enforced and get the money. I've spent 5k with them and still at square one.

They are now passing me from family law dept to the litigation dept. As they say they're more experienced with dealing with the court.

I know reading this you will think I'm such an idiot- and also I don't have all this money sloshing about, I've required my parents to help me out.

I'm so furious looking back at how much money and time I've wasted.

Would you be able to recommend the best way to deal with this to simply get my court order enforced and finally receive the money owed to me?

Not my field at all but I think you should be able to go back to court and ask for an order that the property be sold within x months and once a sale is agreed if your ex refuses to sign you should be able to get the judge to sign the transfer deed in his stead.

Thanks for your advice. That sounds like a good idea.

Does anyone know how I can start going about the process myself, or any charities or groups that can support me through the process?

I feel like I'm having a breakdown as no matter how hard I try I'm smashing my head against a brick wall.

In our divorce 3 years ago my salary was 10% of my ex's. My children were ages 2,4 and 6. I wanted to be able to live in the fmh. But no, ex was in fmh (4 bed house to himself) I was in small rented flat with the children. Judge gave me no maintenance or anything, only thing was a larger share of equity from sale of fmh. But as ex is living happily in a massive house to himself he doesn't want to sell, so he's blocked or delayed all my attempts.

Now the lawyers I'm trying to work with aren't getting on touch with me for 3 weeks- despite chasing emails from myself.

I wonder if it's more straightforward for me to go to court myself. But I don't know who could help me with that?

Go to the wikivorce website and look on thir forum, a bit like this one.

I had loads of support from there during my divorce. Plus it sounds like you've got nothing to lose by doing the legwork yourself.