Regressions after child contact - considering variation of order

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Dd2, almost 3 - currently waiting assessment for ASD, quite a several speech regression which is documented by children’s services and her nursery. Court awarded ex 3 out of 4 weekends on half of school holidays despite my concerns for dd given the fact that the speech regression and behavioural issues only started after contact with exp resumed.

Dd has spent a week with exp and had a regression in her sleep and potty training, speech has slightly regressed but it wasn’t where it should be before going. I’ve asked exp to work with me to support dds development, suggesting two instead of just one video call, to help her adjust, ex is being difficult and has as always threatened legal action against me if I raise any concerns. I’ve spoken to dds health visitor who has said he has concerns and even more so after exp said he would not engage in any help provide by children’s services.

I, at some point would like to return the matter to court as it is clear ex will not work with my in order to help our dd.

How easy is it to vary an order? Can a judge reject such an application, as we haven’t long being out of court? And how much would the previous case weigh in the application?

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How long as it's been since contract resumed? It does take some time for kids to adjust, especially at this age, and normal for them to exhibit some level of regression when they first come back home. Can you evidence that the regression, overall, is solely due to the visits?

@vivainsomnia he has had weekly contact since July 2020 but the final order was in may 21. Issue is that the regression was for the full week along with behavioural problems!

I can evidence that prior to going she was fully potty trained through nursery reports and that exp admitted the regression happened while with him. Regression in sleep all I have is him admitting it happened while with him. The speech is evidenced to have happened when contact restarted last year but there are concerns of asd although I’m certain nursery isn’t concerned about this but they have said there is a clear regression in speech which only seems to slowly improve .