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Will I be able to get a non-molestation order?

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Cresida · 16/07/2021 01:56

I want to apply for a non molestation order but I'm not sure if it'll be taken seriously.

My daughters father has been giving me trouble since she was born. He wasn't around during the pregnancy due to his own actions. He was there when she was born and he's been nothing but trouble. From insisting on calling her a a completely different name to the name I chose during the pregnancy, I gave him the option of double barreling and adding a middle name which he found offensive. He then forced me to do a DNA test because I refused to change her first name, he still calls her by that strange name today. Before I fell pregnant, I told him about a sexually assault that occurred before him, he called the attacker to ask if it was true and didn't tell me. I only found out when the attacker confronted me asking why I told - this happened Whilst I wasn't pregnant. Around that time, he also pushed me into a car door in anger.
He sent me numerous messages where he's said things like "you're done". He recently started messaging my friends on social media to tell them lies about me. He also called me yelling and demanding my whereabouts. Today he turned up at my door. My eldest went to the door to get out Deliveroo order and he was there. When I came out he was there ready with his phone recording and left a box at the door. As soon as I came out he walked away and when I walked outside his cousin was also there recording. They both said nothing. I'm anxious about the fact that he knows where I live.
Does this sound like enough to get the order?

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FortunesFave · 16/07/2021 02:11

Yes it's harassment...call the police and Women's Aid.

Chickenyhead · 16/07/2021 05:56

You need to put together a statement and any evidence of support. Women's aide will guide you to people who can help with this.

Keep any texts, emails etc and think about getting a ring doorbell or similar for evidence.

Collaborate · 16/07/2021 09:33

I would advise that a warning letter be set first. I suspect you'd struggle to get public funding given the facts, and the warning letter may do the trick.

gonnabeok · 16/07/2021 09:50

I have just applied for one. Speak to the Ndvc (National Domestic Violence Centre) they can help with preparing a statement and application for you to submit to court. There is no fee.

Allllchange · 16/07/2021 09:52

The funding actually isn't that tricky. Just need a letter from a GP or other professional stating there is domestic abuse and normally they agree it.

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