Social services

[worcgirl]

Hi everyone, I'm new here and hoping for some advice so here goes.
I separated from my ex over 2 years ago and have received emotional abuse and constant name calling and putting me down ever since. We have 2 children 14 and 6. I have been with my new partner for a year now and he also gets abuse from my ex.. things like calling him a pedophile and a rapist.. he has 2 daughters. 2 weeks ago when my ex dropped my children off and when they were inside my partner went outside for a word which resulted in my partner back handing my ex for all the slanderous things he had been saying about him. Ex called the police and said my 14 year old had witnessed everything but that isn't in any way true as she was with me inside with her brother. I had a call from social services today who want to now speak with my children. I have nothing to hide and my children are happy and cared for but it doesn't stop me feeling worried and sick. What should I expect now? Any advice would be very welcome. Thankyou

So your partner assaulted your ex?

He slapped him yes

They will do a fact finding, ask the children what they saw. Then if the 14 year old did see everything they may take interest. They may ask how your partner is at home and discuss their home life how they feel about it and so on. All depends on what the children say really.

What have the police said other than contact social services for child protection issues. Is your partner having charges pressed against him?

Hi.
Your partner has played right into your exs hands hasn't he? 🙄
Best advice is definitely don't lie.
The social services will have had a police report so have a statement from your partner and your ex?
Your dd is old enough to speak for herself.
Don't be too alarmed by this visit, unless your partner has a temper that he displays at other times when he feels wound up? Is he normally a good person? Does he shout at you or the kids?
If this is a one off, you have nothing to worry about from SS imo.
Get your partner to rein it in......

The police didn't even come and see us. My partner doesn't live with me, he works away during the week. They didn't see anything as they were inside with me. I've never had any involvement before

He's a great guy and is great with my kids, has 2
Daughters of his own, he has let everything go over his head but my ex calling him
a pedophile was the last straw

The children just need to tell the truth, you also need to give your input, not to justify your partner's actions, hitting someone because of things they are saying it's not ok, but to slow children's services to properly assess the situation. You don't give much detail but ex's actions may be deemed as having a detrimental impact on the children. Really you should've reported the things he has been saying/texting etc as it could amount to harassment or malicious communications. Having not done that until your partner hits him makes it look like it's not having much of an impact but now you're using it for justification/tit for tat. Keep a record of everything ex says/does.

If the kids didn't see anything like you say, then that's what they will say.

Two men having fisticuffs when one calls the other a pedophile isn't really unusual. I mean in my neck of the woods fist fights between men have happened for a lot less 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

I've kept a record over the last 2 years of all text messages and any other communication.

I'm sorry for lack of information,
This is my first post so I'm new to this. Please feel free to ask any questions

@Jodie58 you need to start your own post, not comment on someone else’s xx