Form E / Mediation

[pos1t1vePolly]

Hello, looking for some advice. I've just had a first joint mediation session with STBXH which went better than expected. However, his form E has information missing:

1. He hasn't supplied CEV for pension. Should I delay next session unless provided?

2. He lives with his partner, but hasn't filled out the section of her assists/liabilities - is this required?

3. I have reason to believe he has more savings than he's declared, can I do anything?

Any help gratefully received!

Re 1, I would, you don't want to risk mediating yourself out of a share of a big fat pension pot.

Re 2, I can't help you there, but I suspect not unless they have property together or money in joint accounts. I had a new partner by the time my ex and I divorced, but we weren't living together.

Re 3, that is very hard to prove. My divorce took 5 years*. During the first 2 years the amount of cash he took out of the bank for his spends trebled and he continued to withdraw cash at that rate. I know full well that he was squirrelling away money somewhere secret, as the stupid fucker told mutual friends, but I could never prove it. If you know of specific accounts he has, you can ask for statements of those accounts to be included (my ex conveniently "forgot" about his Santander savings account). And then there was the £8k he "lent" his sister, which I only knew about when I finally got the Santander statements and saw the big fat withdrawal.

Good luck.

• because my ex refused to leave the matrimonial home (which was in my sole name) and I couldn't afford to. The solicitor I saw for advice said that I wouldn't be able to divorce him on the grounds of irretrievable breakdown while we were both living under the same roof. He divorced me for unreasonable behaviour, but only when I told him I was involved with someone else.

@LakieLady thank you for taking the time to reply x

Proving he has squirrelled assets is very difficult unless you know exactly where they are..and the cost of finding them and the legal argument will often far exceed any legal costs. The people that go after assets are often not bothered by the cost but revenge etc but most of us don't have the luxury.

I can't see why his partners income and assets come into it and he can't force them to disclose it. However, the fact he is housed may affect the settlement (I personally don't see why it should as relationships can be so transient but hey Ho)