For sanity’s sake. Can I bring financial settlement forward?

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What are the rules for bringing a financial proposal forward months before its time? Thousands a piece is about to be spent on an actuary and recalculations of already drawn pensions. Exh’s last and remaining pension is £170 more than mine per month despite him wanting an equal share of my pensions in his favour. He has to date spent £45,000 on solicitor’s fees. What will the actuary be calculating if he now has so little to bring to the table? Will it not be just a pointless exercise?
For each new solicitor the process starts from scratch. I’m am tired.

Time to decide if it's financially and mentalkyworthwhile fighting it from your pov.

Thank you for replying.
For the DC’s sake, it will to be a fight to death!

You are just making the solicitors rich.

Given that he has already spent £45k on solicitors and there is therefore £45k less to be shared between you, you need to think seriously about whether fighting to the death is counterproductive. A bigger percentage of the assets may be worth less to you in cash terms if the assets have been reduced in getting there. It is always tempting to try and extract every last drop from your ex but, as the previous poster says, the only people who win may be the lawyers.

I'm confused OP. On the one hand you want to settle quickly for sanity's sake. On the other hand you will fight him to the death - presumably to maximise your share of the finances.

The only way to a quick outcome is to make your STBXH an offer he will accept. If there is an actuary's report outstanding your offer may have to be so generous that he accepts it without endorsement from his solicitor who might well tell him she cannot give full advice on your offer without all necessary info ie the report. At some point either everyone agreed the report was necessary or the court ordered it - either way difficult to change that now.

If you are planning to fight him to the death then you will almost certainly go to a final hearing and at least double what you've each already spent in legal fees.

Do children really need to see their parents fighting to the death ?

With the abuse he put them through they would want to join in.